Published on February 22nd, 2012 | by thetoolsman176
When The Magic Stops
Hey people, Toolsman here and it’s time to get our dialogue on. Today, I’m putting up a slightly modified version of a throwback Blog jacking Friday post based on recent developments and I have some burning questions at the end so please help out.
I came across a debate online sometime ago about women wanting simple things, which we men often can’t provide. When most women are asked what it is they look for in men, the answer almost always goes something like, … I just want a real man; caring, affectionate, financially stable and of course, good looking.
Well, I agree with that answer. Truth is it’s similar to the response expected from guys. However, upon closer examination, I singled out the term “real man”. Yes. What exactly do they mean by that. I ask this question because turning the tables and taking the literal meaning, the term “real woman” means something completely different nowadays.
The word ‘real’ is defined as: something actually existing as a thing or occurring in fact; not imagined or supposed in the dictionary but maybe that’s too broad. For the purpose of this write up, I shall narrow my scope to looks. I was on Twitter last night when a debate broke out due to a certain OAP’s avatar. I took note of some of the comments passed especially by the women and for a second, I wondered, women expect us men to be honest but can we say the same for how some of them present themselves to us? Their words may be true but that’s where it stops. Eyes, hair, body e.t.c. Some women go to great lengths to create an alternate version of themselves. It’s gotten to the point where men (and even other women) have to openly question if a woman is “real or not.”
But this brings me to why I’m here today. Why are women doing this? Is there a belief that this is what a man wants? Or are they simply attempting to mask their own insecurities? One thing’s sure; the more I talk to other men about this, the more I notice the growing displeasure with this alarming upward trend of “fake” women. Before you bite me, let me state, like I always do, that I’m not a cave man and I’m all for women getting dulled up to look nicer. Lip gloss – brilliant. Lipstick – sexy. (Or should I say, can be sexy). Hair extensions, nails e.t.c but as with most things in life, there’s that line (however thin) between just enough and excessive.
If you say it’s just about masking insecurities then I just wonder what business women like Beyonce have with butt pads, I mean insecurity isn’t a word most of us would come up with when Beyonce’s name gets mentioned. Then again, I guess with celebs, you can’t really say…
Before we get into the debate, I’d just like to state that what really gets to me is when we see videos like the one I have below, where women who deal in these ‘body enhancers’ are propped as ‘modern day super heroes’ saving lives and what not.
(Sidebar: Am I the one one who didn’t really notice any difference in the before and after shots? )
But the pressing questions is are they really saving lives, relationships, marriages? I mean if they are then we won’t have people come up with songs/videos like this:
Anyway, whatever the reason is behind your decision to ‘artificially’ enhance your body, it’s your reason and I’m not attacking your hustle today. What I really want to know is ‘what happens at the end of the magic show?’ So you’ve rocked your awesome body at the event, you bagged yourself a Twitter Celeb, heck, a Nollywood star and then you come back home and hit the sack and VIOLA… what happens then? And to the guys reading this, I’d like to read some personal experiences, have you even been in a situation where you got a chic in bed and she turned out to be someone else? How did it make you feel or how do you think it will make you feel if it ever happens? You know the drill, use the comment box and speak your mind. Cheers.