Am I an Aristo now?
Efe,
Please help me get back my swag with the ladies. In december broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years and it is hard to have no girlfriend. The thing is many chicks who I think was attracted to me have now put me in the friend zone because of the time I was in a relationship.
I’m single (under 25), I have a very good job at a bank but have little time to hang out and meet people because I hardly close early from work and sometimes I even go to work on saturday and sunday. Even when I get the chance to meet a new girl I am always feeling insecure like I am doing something wrong.
I think my biggest problem is confidence. I know I am on point with the way I dress, my friends say so all the time. Being single and meeting new gurls is scary for me, and I’ve spent the 3 months feeling as if I’m never going to meet anyone. Women I find attractive intimidate me, and I often won’t pursue them because I feel as if they won’t give me the time of day.As a result, I tend to settle for girls in university because most of them are easy, they are tripped by the idea of dating a working guy with some money and a car. Meanwhile,I am dying to date a chick that is more on my level. Like working class, got a job and stuff like that. I am not even thinking of marriage, I am just looking to start a serious relationship that makes sense.
My question: How do I resolve this problem I am having with my confidence? Do you think because I am dating university girls I am an aristo?
Any help, from you, the readers, will be greatly appreciated.
- Anything for love.
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Hello guys and girls, what do you think? Let’s use the comments box and give some advice or share our own experience.
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About the Author
Efe_Ogaren I am in my late twenties and happily married with an academic background in Economics, Psychology & Finance. My professional experience is in Management Consulting & I enjoy being outdoors, volunteering and observing social interactions between people.
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How can u be an aristo at under 25 though?
Ist
Erm hey excuse me, single, working class lady waving over here. :). Oh nd am also under 25.
Erm hey excuse me *waving*. Single working class lady over here. Oh am also under 25 :)
A lil marketing hmmn?
Dating uni girls doesnt make u an aristo tho.
I'm struggling to see how and why this email made it here, today.
Efe, it's allowed to leave this place blank, sometimes.
To the fella: Google this shit.
I ll advice this dude to stick with a girl that he feels is worth him. Being a university undergraduate doesn't mean she won't get there someday. Pick a girl that ll appreciate you for who you are and not for your money(aristo …don't give that impression). Then give d relationship time to workout.
You are an MFT. Man From Town. That's what we called young guys with "small change" and car when I was in Lag.
Take PM's advice, google is your friend.
No, you are not an aristo… per se.
You have already diagnosed yourself so all you need to do now overcome your confidence problem. The best way to do that is to just go for it. Basic really (google could have told you this but I'm nice). Go for girls you like, attempt it, don't over-think it. Prepare to chop the attendant Ela that will come sometimes. It is our lot in life as men. But eventually, you will find your match and hopefully, love will ensue.
Goodluck.
* pauses Foster d PPle's Broken Jaw *
Erm, Mr. A4L, Hope it aint abt Lack of Availabity d X left u? cuz chances r dat ur just gonna carryover dem courses onto d next one. u gaz to find a way to slow down a lil' bit on dem Sat. & Sun. work Gigs n Socialize a bit more (often). Seems u'v kinda answered half of ur P already
p.s U dont yet qualify 4 an aristo
*hits play*
Uni girls are easy ehn? This boy must b mad. Aristo ko? With ur bank job.