Find Me A Regular Girl
Hey people, it’s Thetoolsman here with another MondayRush. How are we all doing today? Good weekend? I hope so. Like I said in one of my previous posts this year, you’ll notice more structure to most of our sections as we dig deeper into the year. For those who don’t know, Monday’s are all about opinions. We have two spots every Monday. First up is the MondayRush which pretty much looks at the previous week and we highlight one major news event that drives our conversation for the day and then you have Zombie which does the same thing but is more slanted towards politics, business and how it affects you, our readers.
After looking through all the events of last week (which I was able to summarize to the following by the way) …
- Django Django Django
- Indian men have something for buses and can’t seem to keep it in their pants
- Django Django Django
- Timberlake is back (maybe)
- Django Django Django
- S/o to nakedness Girls Won @ The Golden Globe
- Jodie Foster came out (kinda)
It was really obvious what I had to write on right? The blogosphere is drowning in all kinds of opinion pieces centered around the movie Django but since I haven’t seen I’m not supposed to have seen the movie thanks to the failed businesses we call cinemas in Nigeria, I’ll save my comments for later and just share something else instead. I know I’ve gone over this before but last week, I was looking through the status updates on a friends bbm and came across the wedding day picture of a mutual friend who was pretty much a renowned Tiger Woods heartthrob some years back. While looking at it, she came over to me and asked one question: Why did he end up with a ‘regular girl’? I didn’t want to go over my old posts on the subject so I’ll share something from someone else today. Enjoy.
There are two other related factors. Both are stereotypes and I’m not shying away from that fact. Many stereotypes have legitimate origins but you can believe what you want.
1) In my opinion, a lot of pretty women have issues. As far as men are concerned, all women have issues but pretty women have more. I don’t know why but it could be as simple as because people allow them to. Most men know or will eventually learn that if you deal with enough pretty women, you’re going to have to put up with some extra sh*t. More sh*t than you would with your average regular woman. For example – and I’m still stereotyping here – pretty women tend to have less developed personalities, consistently rank higher on the crazy scale, expect more for less in generally every aspect of life, and perhaps the most obvious, because they are pretty, sometimes rely heavily on their looks to get what they want – and are shocked if/when this tactic fails.
I’m not saying awesome pretty women don’t exist. They do. I will, however, argue that you will find far more regular women typically exceed pretty woman in all categories but looks. In my opinion, the race isn’t even close.
In the interest of accounting for my bias, I will concede this may be based on the relative population of the two. Men know women are not equally distributed in looks across a scale of 1 – 10 but EVEN IF THEY WERE, while beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, even a 5th grader is smart enough to tell you that simple math dictates there would be less 10s available in the population than 1 – 9s combined. Therefore, odds are there are less extremely attractive women (10s) than regular women (1 – 6s) to choose from.
2) I believe men become less superficial with age. Older men are also less willing to put up with as much random crap from a pretty woman simply because she is pretty. I guess it’s not that men’s preferences change, it’s that we realize there is more to sustaining our happiness than a woman’s looks alone. If I had to assign a time frame for the average man I’d say it’s post age 25. Not coincidentally, this is when most men seriously consider getting married (according to Newsweek, the average is 27).
Around this age men finally begin to weigh pros and cons with greater accuracy: Do you want to put up with the FINE woman with the personality of a rock, who sucks in bed without sucking in bed and doesn’t provide you with much overall satisfaction beyond her looks – for the rest of your life? Or do you stop putting so much emphasis on looks and find a woman you genuinely like for reasons extending beyond her superficial attributes?
For many men it is a truly shocking experience to enjoy spending time with a woman when sex is not the first or only thing on his mind. It takes even longer for (most) men to accept such satisfaction may not be wrapped in the body of a 10.
Will a man remain faithful to a regular woman?
Look, if a man wants to cheat he is going to cheat. If a man wants to be faithful, he will be faithful. You can be pretty, ugly or anywhere in between and these facts remain the same.
Even if a man is with a woman you/I/we perceive as ugly, it is very possible he is perfectly happy with her, and she may very well satisfy him in ways a “pretty” woman never could as far as he is concerned. Additionally, beauty is highly subjective – but that’s another discussion.
My point is that happy – and more importantly, satisfied – men don’t need/want to cheat.
To the guys reading, are the points above accurate? Why do men spend years dating/ pursuing/ talking about the model/video girl prototypes they are allegedly going to marry, then turn around and settle down with the regular / cute / basic girl? Why do men who are perfectly capable of getting with “model types” suddenly leave those types alone when pursuing a wife? Can men remain faithful to regular women?
And for the ladies, do you find being labeled a “regular” woman offensive?
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Of course when it comes to marriage, a lot of things will be considered and this is not limited to men. Seeing that marriage is a long time, forever affair, what else are you bringing to the table besides your looks? Average, regular girls know that they have to work on that personality to gain ground. Can't be ugly or average with a shabbly personality too. No, no. It will only take the grace of God for a perfect 10 to try to up her personality because truthfully, the way the world has made it seem; beauty is everything.
By the way, please don't put cute and average together. Every man wants a cute, nice size woman as a wife :)
Regular is standard in terms of looks, cooking, mothering prospects, great companionship, good sex and all..might be lucky that the regular babe can even do better in these areas…would take her over the stunning diva and all..besides you can transform/upgrade a regular babe (evidence abounds), on the other hand, nobody wants a downgrade…i dont want a downgraded babe
I will just sit down and enjoy ur comments…
BTW I'm a regular girl… Who was asking? See me o… Very very regular
U have said it all. A drop dead gorgeous has all the tendency to be overally superficial and vain. You don't wife those, well @least not as a first! A regular girl will fight to keep you, a hawtie will simply feel 'I can get another'.
All d pros of marrying a pretty face starts in ends on the pictures and on the lips of onlooker saying 'she is pretty. Nice 1'. After that nko?
I realized early that very pretty/beautiful women have 'issues', and bring lots of wahala with them. And because of that, I have tried to avoid their kind over the years.
As the writer said, I've also realized that being happy/satisfied with a woman has much less to do with her looks, than it has to do with her character and my compatibility with her.
BTW, I'm 27. Where are the regular girls? :| * I'm not a regular guy, though* :)
LEt me just be the first to say i can whooze this Tula. Biko please who remembers the time they asked us about fine man vs mr regular and we said fine men have wahala. Didnt all these men (Tula you in particular and Mr saka too) abuse us??????????
Kelvin im waiting for your comment ooo
My dear d tin tire me… I just wanna read their comments….
Gheun! What have I done again?
ME? I didn't abuse y'all .. I only thanked God cuz I realized I wasn't a 'fine boy'.
Double standard
U guys r confused…
lool see this one with his kpomo lips saying im not a regular guy
What or should i say wђo is a Regular Girl? Cos really τ̅☺ me, this question makes absolute no sense & needs not being asked at all. All girls are unique in their own way & form, the fact that one brings more drama into t he relationship than the other doesn’t mean that, we girls are entirely drama free. Hence the saying one mans’ poison is another mans’ treasure. So about choosing a pretty girl over a “regular” girl or vice versa, it all boils down τ̅☺ the mans’ taste & deciding what truely works for him.
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Lool. Steady taking it p on behalf of #teamregulargirls
So a few weeks ago, the guys went gangsta on ladies dt said fine guys lacked character; but it’s ok for pretty girls to lack character. So TNC is def sexist.
Ahows, people get married/hook up with who they fall for. That’s just it. You may love boobs! Infact, u stopped breastfeeding at age four, but that babe with 32A size gives you butterflies (I know, guys don’t get ‘butterflies RME) that’s it.
I think when we try hard to see patterns in this dating/marriage-ish, we try to warp everything by making it fit a popular theme.
"So a few weeks ago, the guys went gangsta on ladies dt said fine guys lacked character; but it's ok for pretty
girls to lack character. So TNC is def sexist"
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Sexist? Camman.. we try to balance things out eventually, if not you won't have read this post here. Y'all will go on and on about this but when a guy refers to a chic as 'regular' it's beyond the looks. She could have a banging body, look hotter than Bey and still be a 'regular' chic.. when we did the post about good looking guys, that was all it was.. just looks. -___-
If pretty is Kim/Omotola and regular is kerry Washington/Omawunmi, what am I looking for in pretty zone? I'll gladly let that be another man's headache
Kerry Washington regular? Kerry Washington regular?? Omotola pretty and Kerry Washington regular??? DPMO
Drivel
Just waiting for Toolsman and Sirkastiq's comment……
And regular or pretty doesn't really matter, like niyyola said; you fall for who you fall for. There is no particular pattern in these things…….
Ahn Ahn? Comment ke?
But who are the regular girls and who are the irregular ones.i need answers pls
There is a risk that pretty women might suffer from reverse discrimination. Where men keep away from them intentionally cuz of the pretty girl stereotype. As a girl, people tend to put me in boxes and automatically expect that I get hand outs (cash or support from a long list of boy toys). In fact, I go out of my way to do things by myself (at the risk of being overly independent, cant win can u!). I am usually met with surprise by the things I have achieved on my own or seen as an idiot for not cashing in by obtaining favour from men.
We need to stop sterotyping ppl and start investing in judging ppl by what we know of them. Getting to know eachother is exactly that is just that starting from a clean slate, ignoring assumptions and sterotypes.
Oh how I love this comment
I think being labelled a "regular" girl is an offensive stereotype. What is the definition of a "regular" girl? The most annoying thing is most guys are superficial and use the whole excuse of "I'm a guy" to cover it up. You fall in love with who you fall in love with. This question shouldn't be asked or even debated upon.
Being a girl is difficult enough and then you have to go through this whole "labelling" phase? C'mon.
Well, it seems two people have been waiting for a comment from me. I really never knew I had attained such high level importance..
I just want to thank God for life, thank my family and then TNC for this platform of relevance…LOL
My comment? Ok…
Wait for it…
If u made a comment dat's related to the topic, I wld av been shocked
u are stupid sarcastic, i swear, lol
He knows
To be honest, i am a handsome man, too irregular, sometimes it feels like a curse. i can get them models but at the end of the day, after sex, i want peace of mind and an entertaining personality to wake up to. Fuck all of you.
well, Same to you. I'm telling it as it is.
Easy, Easy
You know at the end of the day, everything is choice.
When you are really ready for peace, you know were to find the kind of ladies you are after.
*Grabs Pop Corn* reading comments and laughing out loud!!!!
ahah! irregular or regular. I'm living my life.
1. People should stop stereotyping
2. As a being, don't put yourself in categories..ok that probably falls in point 1 but whatever
3. I'm just typing anything
4. I'm done commenting
5. Bye
Hmm… pretty girls are irregular… I see. *jots*
What makes me regular? Not bothering to wear make-up and be seen, not afraid to break a nail, loves to wear t-shirt and jeans and stick with flat shoes because I’m comfy? Does that make ♍ƺ regular?
Soooo in other words men would rather wife ‘regular’ girls cuz those ones have fewer options which leads to less ‘attitude/issues’? Lolage
I just can't wait for Tula to get married
Wait whats going on here? You think marriage will change me?
NAh he wants to see who you end up marrying ni~
Honestly, I also cannot wait for Tula to get married.
…………………Or get his status changed….if that's not already changed though. ^_^
But I don't get.. how does that change anything?
We want to see if you will end up with "Regular"
My thoughts on this are pretty extensive you should read it for yourself boudoir8.wordpres.com
i can identify with this post..dope*