Who’s Counting?
Last week we asked: Do girls prefer the ‘religious’ approach from guys? From the votes your response was: NO!
Last week, an email was sent to TNC and I thought to share:
“Why did he have to ask this question? I was hoping I could avoid the question, at least, till I was sure things were serious between us. Do I tell the truth? Lie? Or just avoid the question altogether? This wouldn’t have been a problem 3 weeks ago, before the sleep over at Titi’s house. We all decided to play a game of truth or dare. Somehow, we started asking each other how many guys they had been with? Four out of the ten girls that night had their numbers below 5. They were considered good girls. The three that were between 5 and 8 were considered wild. Imagine my shame when I had to say I had slept with over 10 guys and we were all age mates. Luckily, I had two other girls on my side. We joked about it afterwards but I could still feel the judgemental stares coming our way.
Now, 3 weeks after, I am faced with the same problem with my new boyfriend. How do I explain to him that I didn’t enjoy sleeping around, that I was only a naive girl that thought sex was the way to keep the guys? Heck, I don’t even like sex a lot, except when it’s very good, of course. Of the three of us that were above 10 that night, I was the one they were surprised to see in that group. I was believed to be a good girl, a decent girl whereas the others were known for being wild and considered “bad” girls. But does the fact that I have slept with over 10 men at 25 make me any less good? Does it even matter that I didn’t start having sex till I was 21. (Okay, maybe that’s bad. How on earth did I cover 12 men in 4 years?) I am just a hopeless romantic in search of love and with a weak (ok, very weak) resolve.
If my friends who have known me for years can judge me, who’s to say that this new wonderful guy that has known me barely 4 months will not leave me at the drop of a hat? And if I lie now, and things get serious would I keep up the lie or tell the truth?”
Now to today’s poll:
Will you judge your partner by the amount of people they’ve had sex with? For me I dont think I want to know. I believe everything that has happened in the past should stay in the past.
What say you?
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Who is Counting? well i think your conscience is <_<, erm Sa'id behave!!!
I voted yes. Fuck that shit.
I mean. Is it olympics? Why you tryna rack up yo numbers huh girl?
Would you feel better if they were all within the confines of an official, albeit short-lived relationship? Or is it only the idea of one-night stands that puts you off?
Haha! Trick question?
It's always worse when 20 of the 25 guys you've shagged didn't call you back.
If the number is more than 10, there really isn't much one can add to the equation. It's already balanced.
you say this because it hasn't gotten to 20, or better still, 30 :P
I'm sure at that point, you'd take off so fast, the babe will be left smoking your exhaust fumes
Couldn't have said it better.
30? I'll be in China if you need me.
Because u've had sex with only one person??
¬_¬
Indeed.
Indeed.
I mean 10 niggas! 10?
Na to enter arrange parlour na?
An RV does not look big in the Grand Canyon.
Bu ha ha ha ha ha ha ha > See Quote, come on Terdoh, you don't blame your Landlord if the Parlor is too big for your settee
please don't tell me you guys actually believe that myth about the parlour growing larger with each 'occupation'? *shocked*
Lol, don't mind them. Someone should set them straight.
What myth? This is science.
(•ˆ⌣ˆ•)
What science? so…what do you think happens after? She becomes slack?? LOL!! ure a lost one Terdoo…
Oh my word.
Your Human Biology abi Sex Ed. teacher would be so proud.
@Terdoh! Science ontop v*gina matter… It doesn't apply abeg! Babies pass thru, and d women still enjoy s*x
People say it doesn't have meter for a reason… D p*ssy is d BEST liar in the world
Do the men enjoy sex after the babies pass through?
Asking for a future father.
In other words, the men who stick with knacking only their wives after 9 kids are enduring?
Enduring?
Homie, they're heroes
9 kids though. What are you starting? An entire football league?
I wonder! I seriously wonder… Dat man must be wicked or d woman doesn't know d road to family planning clinic
hey! y'all shouldn't hate folks 'cuz they wanna repopulate the earth. Every person knows what they want. If they didn't want 13 kids each, would they be together?
@ sapphire013: its not wickedness, after all, she could have taken the morning after pill if she wanted to.
Except in an episiotomy dat wasn't sutured properly! Dey don't av 2 endure… Dey enjoy
LOooooL, yay Tiki is here *Azontoing* Dont mind me, its just a PUN Guys share. we don mean it
Thank goodness, else modern-day geishas masquerading as virgins be fooling y'all!
Didn't u hear Terdoh say its science? *smh*
i once had a virgin roomie who was more knowledgeable than even the self confessed nympho in our midst. Her virginity was very suspect, especially as she changed guys twice in one semester. don't know if she's still one now ooo!
i have learnt to fear all those assassins forming virgin ……na them fit kill u … the original virgins are just harmless
Lmao @assassins
The virgin could actually be more knowledgeable and is actually smarter. She probably reads more and listens more than she acts.
And pigs can fly!Sent from my BlackBerry wireless device from MTN
Really. One of my major preoccupation used to be reading literature on how to make love. How to touch women so they respond very well. On my first night, my girlfriend found it difficult to believe that I had never had sex even though I had issues locating the hole but I was able to touch her responsively.
You had a preoccupation with reading books. That girl didn't read anything I could see o! Except she was reading @ night, under the covers! Sent from my BlackBerry wireless device from MTN
She never said she was a virgin and I purposely didn't ask her how many? Although she said she first did it at 13. I only wondered why a grown man (read that as 17<x) will have sex with a 13 year old girl. That's child abuse.
Modern Day myth.
lmaooooooooo………
LMFAO!!!!!
"An RV does not look big in the Grand Canyon." <————– I will use this someday.
Jokes aside tho, it doesn't really matter. (emphasis on really)
WHY AM I VOTING HERE? IS THIS OUR WET FRIDAY POST????!!!!
Painment! Hahahahahaha
The funny thing about this is that I just watched 'What's Your Number'. (Google the movie for more info). What's the point of counting. I mean if you love each other, who cares
I don't even know. I'm too curious not to want to know. Then when i actually know, i start to over think and over analyze it. Then when i've come to some sort of begrudging conclusion, i start to wonder if i'll ever meet up. so….. i have NO IDEA if my vote is yes, or no.
You ,my lady ,Confuse me quite easily
it's pretty clear cut. isn't it? I HAVE to know even tho i'm not asking cuz i want to judge. but i just might judge…a little bit. X_x
I felt like u for the first two minutes after reading the question. Then I asked myself "would you dump ur bf if he slept with 10 girls u knew, or 10 of ur friends?" that kinda cleared it up for me. It's much more who, than how many.
See why i miss you on here!!! Point Gallery *you may rinse now* i tried pondering what you said and it gave me the shivers, What!!!!! 10 people i know, the story will definitely change, i agree its a matter of who not how many.
I love the bubbles! I think I'll wait a while before i rinse. Lol
LOL Ode
Truth is its better you dont knw or go snooping around ? you dont want to walk into a party and start feeling funny cos u can see some of his ex shags around.
The past should stay in the past. It doesn’t matter the number of patners one has had. What is very important is the future. Knowing all about your partner’s past sexual escapades only breeds jealousy.
In this kind of situation, ignorance is bliss. I don't really wanna know, as long as he has no carryover diseases from all them partners. I would want to know the highlights though.
Wait did she say 12 and she felt like a bad girl? *covers face and hides inside the wardrobe*
For me, when I am asked, i stick to a specific figure – 6. since the figure never changes, I am not likely to forget it. *wink*.
"6? C'mon. Are there any zeros missing honey?" – Your boyfriend, probably.
just like u are certain there are no zeroes behind what you have been told.
Or that the numbers have not been switched. 30 becomes 03.
Get a Crystal ball..
Gbam!
I voted no. But is it bad to have slept with 6 guys in a year? Asking for a friend
who defines what is bad and good? that is the real question you should be asking. what does your 'friend' think?
Hmmmmm i see you!!!! Well my friend says hi ^_^
Now which friend! A real human friend or ur 3rd leg
the ever infamous 'friend'………..
"I DONT WANNA KNOW" ……she is mine nw and thats all that matters(proper relationship senario ) . i have lost count of my shag escaped so why should i judge hers . but then i'll hear stuff like its different cos am a guy , then my question would be who has she been with are they not guys as well ?…..am also not a big fan of virgins or less experienced chicks so i guess 5 would be my own 0 .
don't judge me ….. some dudes like to be the 1st like Columbus . i just dont care .
regards,
King of the Jungle
You sir, do not deserve to be the first for any lady.
*sideeye* Who decides who deserves or doesn't deserve to be a lady's first?!
The lady. Some people like mingers.
What are mingers?
yimu …….wetin them dey use the 1st do ……open bank account ?
LMAO,
Poor man talk say big guinness dey bitter. Tortoise like boxing, problem be say ei hand dem short. Do I need to continue?
LoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooL, Tiki haff kill me oh *Rolling*
lol …nice1
Tiki, be honest,w ho did u grow up with? The kain proverbs wey u dey break here ehn, hian!
Loooooool. A child who washes their hands well dines with elders!
Tiki o! Lwtmb…. Hahahhahahahahha
In all honesty, it matters, but I don't think it should. For guys, having a high number is usually perceived as a badge of honor and it's quite the contrary for girls. It's blatant double standard that's grossly unfair but unfortunately such is life. Guys, especially African guys, have this disjointed ego problem in which they can't imagine the girls they are with having equally wild and crazy sex lives. What makes it worse is that guys like to brag as if naivete and promiscuity are things to be proud of.
If you're gonna tell him about your past sexual experiences, then tell him the facts but don't go into detail. If he can't handle the fact that you thought enough of him to be honest with him, then he should get the stepping. Bottom line, whether you're a guy or a girl, it's not a fun experience finding out about your partner's sex life from someone other than your partner.
*Standing Ovation* Encore!!!! Drops Mic………………Sips Zobo
"Bottom line, whether you're a guy or a girl, it's not a fun experience finding out about your partner's sex life from someone other than your partner." <———— This is just it. Let the PARTNER be the one to say it.
*Mario Winans crooning in the background* I don't wanna know…if you creeping…….. *chops mouth*.
Why in Gods name would i want to know, i mean its your past, the less i know the safer i am…………but Babes!! 12 men in 4 years, that's an average of 3 guys per year and 1 guy every 4 months?
See; that's why i don't want to know, gimme figures and the analyst in me takes over!!! i voted NO and Yes you care, see what i did there?
you haven't factored in okafor's law in that ur maths ohh ….lol
Wow!!! well i guess Okafor's law will pass as a Variable here, more like the Constant of integration, we can easily discard it at the end of the day. But if its for a "Do while" Loop then the number of Occurance really matters
Lol, are we talking about initial matches or re-matches here?
Rematches ni o !!!
There are 120 days in 4 months. Put it this way – once every 120 days. Doesn't sound so bad now, does it? :-)
IFF (if & only if) its Once every 120 days, who are we kidding here, body no be wood abeg!!! well you never can tell, if the knacks is terrible then make it 1 in a blue moon.
@s_hotzs too much qbasis , java , c ,C++ dey worry u
not really. she needs just one day to heal…and 10 more days to be as tight as before. then…her vjayjay forgets.
AHA !!!! cc @Terdoh
@s_Hotzs ..vjayjay get " if not entered return to line 1 "
#code truncated…..
If he's sometin is very big abi? Cos for d average sometin, 3-4 rounds everyday for a week and Vjayjay will still be smiling for more and remain as tight as ever…
@Terdoh, are u listening, abi na reading? Hurry, there's someone more qualified to fill your form here o!
No comment
loooooooooooooooooooooooool
i did never ask cos knowing would breed unwanted results. And i did rather not tell her my numbers too……even score huh?
if your partner has had more than 10, it just might happen that there's nothing new you can show your partner, your partner would count you as part of the numbers…my opinion though..but really who's counting?..asking is not productive cos he/she might just lie about it
For the utmost time……………………Where is Tiki?
Uhm….
What?
Like what?
Lol, Tiki is on holiday, and her phone has been confiscated. I have to sneak off to the bathroom to come on TNC! I miss y'all too. Will be back to my regular first in a week, so @sapphire03 and @rezza…enjoy while it lasts! :p
*hmmmmmmmn* goes back to think very well
Hmm, very touchy topic but if someone is truly interested i think they focus on the present instead of the past. It's what you will be like going forward that matters to me. However, it is important to get the medical all-clear before indulging :-)
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So a man is supposed to bear the brunt of your weak resolve? You are a joker. As a female, the number of men you've slept with matters. As a man, it doesn't matter. Scream double standards all you want. No one's listening.
For this lady, the issue isn't that you are a romantic. You are just a clingy, needy female with zero self esteem and like you've pointed out, you thought or still think that sex can keep a guy. You don't think it is possible for a guy to be with you beyond sex. For a while, sex can.
Another angle to look at this from, is maybe you're just not good in bed. Otherwise why would you offer a guy sex and he still walks?
I can't deal with a lady who's got high mileage. For me, 10 is quite a number. That said, I wouldn't want to know.
You can't deal with a lady who's got high 'anything', except tolerance level.
And I'll like to believe that not every guy is a randy dog who dives into any hole under an upraised skirt. Some guys value things like emotions, respect, trust. Some guys got class.
trust me ….even class has dick ohh …either wanking , gay or all up in ur behind …..**drops mic **
*CHOI* i kent , i just kent
LoooL . .
As someone who does not appreciate the burden of initiation, I'd rather my man had some experience in bed. However I do not want to enter a party on your arm, and every girl there knows what my man is packing. How then do I brag and lie about your size and prowess? If you are gonna sleep around, have the decency to be discreet, use a condom, and don't shit in the river you drink from. .ps. Deceiving a girl to get into her pants, and sleeping with my friends are deal breakers for me. Doesn't matter if it happened only once. .ps 2. Please don't ask me how many partners i've had. I'll probably lie.
Humor Me; How many have you had -_ _ _ _ –
you're really not expecting an answer…………..
Tiki. Has. Said. It. All.
**GBAM**
(Y)
err..the only reason y i wont mind the number of girls my guy has slept with in the past is if he can do the do…if he has slept with more dan 5 and still rams like a goat, DUDE’s GOT AN ISSUE!!!!!
This is why Virgins will make heaven.
1) Their partners have nothing to worry about.
2) Whatever you do, is correct.
GBAM !!!!!!!!
Gbam unto what? So virgins dat give different d*cks blowjob will make heaven? Or d ones dat do anal?
…until she uses her teeth to give u head.
*Ouch* Le' Scrapping Technique
'Until she uses her teeth to give you head' hahahaha
jeeezzzz lawd!!! somebody call 911. lmao
Just to be clear, what kind of virgins are these? Oral, anal, vaginal or otherwise? These days, a distinction is necessary.
Plus, isn't herpes transmissible through oral sex? Methinks their partners should stay worried until convinced otherwise.
VERY NECESSARY to know what kind of virgin she is!
!!!
wonder how the guys @wikipedia will define an **** virgin
Thank u o! Virgins will give all d orals in d world, and even train d girl dat is doing 20 guys..
It does matter, we all keep a vague count. Guy don't want the "loose" one, and girls usually want the experienced one. The poll shhould have been gender sensitive.
everyone will like to click 'no' as a don't care/ it's all in the past approach. But fact is fact, your past IS part of your existence, it also tells a lot…honestly, its scary to tell, but even scarier to ask… i mean, you have to be mature enough to realize that it REALLY is the past and all that ish… in short… this is one of those questions noone should ever air
When they ask them, Nigerians will say "no be so… past na past…" lol… ah, when you were doing it, were you high? did they jazz you? No. you knew perfectly well what and how many you were doing. So, when they ask you… you say it… if you lie… that's when you'll now know how small this world is… Karma's a bitch, treat her right.
This Babe aint drunk kenken, Well as much as our past is part of our existence we try so hard to forget or ignore it, well as for Karma, give her a good f*ck and that settles it *Drops 50 Naira coin inside basket*
Frankly I don’t want to know ow many girls he has slept with bt if he tells me I’ll judge him. To d girl in question I’ll say lie, lie and lie again. Any guy dat hears uv slept with 12 guys would NEVER see u in d same light again. Infact u shldnt have told ur frnds sef. Well if u like u can be honest with him o. Hope we’ll get to hear ow he ran away as fast as his legs could carry him, then ul start searchin 4 no 13.
I can't vote…I'm very curious I'd like to know. But then, I also can't say it won't matter…
If the answer states like crazyass escapades & a very high number…the 'will I ever measure up question would always cross my mind…
IT DOESN'T MATTER!!! Usually guys judge girls based on their past a lot and the ? I ask such guys is : what if the girls do the same? What if the girls judge us based on the no. Of girls we have slept with?
We live in a society that judge women- even women judge women. Decency is overrated. Sex is overrated. Hypocrisy is exalted :]x
Abeg no vex …what is the meaning of amala pupa? It brings to mind images of a maggot in a grey cocoon.
hahahaha.Tiki don off me *holding my sides* amala pupa ke?
never heard of it.
i have heard of 'amala funfun' sha
I wanna say no
But the truth us i will
cos i'm melancholy
i will wonder
I will ask a lot of questions
Its just human
It's so sad that we still think like this tho! Can't we just like sex? So are the single ladies supposed to die of konji just so the number doesn't increase? As long as you're smart and safe, rock on jare! And lie! Men do that all the time too! :D
Perhaps the guys saying they don't want to know are only saying so because they don't want to tell?
AND TULA, THAT IS JUST THE TRUTH!
A girl should have no objections to the number of women her partner has been with, if she finds out. She should be elated. She's in safe hands.
A man has nothing to hide. Ask away.
So easy to say when no one is asking you…
Tiki, I have come to the conclusion that you're a very mean person. And at this point, I'd like to say…
It's a pleasure meeting you.
lol, me, mean? I promise, I'm not o!
Mantis just brings out the sharp-tongued spirit in me.
Yea, what tools said!
Ya man
Does it matter? YES.
But who does it matter to, and by how much, and what is the number that it big or small? Pls, all of us are different, you need to know your partner before you start deciding to say or not to say.
For example, to a virgin, 10 might be a big number. To some people, 10 is normal. average even.
I know normal 25/26 year olds that have had upwards of 100 partners. Besides the health risk, they are otherwise normal. I also know 31/32 year old virgins that are quite normal as well.
Depending on who they meet, the number may or may not matter.
Thank you!
Fin!
Please it matters … You shouldn't tell me how many girls you've slept with and if asked, I shall lie and lie and lie and keep changing figures , because its no one's bloody business. If you 'love' me and know I'm not carrying any diseases,,,WHAT is your own with my figures???
Lol
hahahahahahaha! in fact, ROTFL.
lol @sex for fitness. heard its a good way to burn calories :D
And yes, it matters a lot!!!so to avoid judgement, keep your number to yourself… Cos even if you tell me you haven't at all, I'll just think there's a problem somewhere.
Abi
Honestly, I’d want to know and I’d probably judge but I’ll probably understand and live with it if I’m in “too deep” *emphasis on the deep.
A female who has had say 20 partners and counting: Imagine what her body parts will be like: grotesque and saggy. You can't put her used parts to use. Think of it as a car. She's equivalent to a battered 'danfo'.
Bottom line: Ladies, keep it to the barest minimum.
lol, mhen thats just mean. battered danfo??? haha *now singing "danfo driver"*
Congratulations, you have just fully exposed yourself as an ignorant buffoon. You probably have no experience with women either.
20 partners does not a saggy body make. whats the difference between one who has has 20 partners once each and a woman who has had one partner and had sex 200 times with him? Its all about how she takes care of herself and what she does. If you do not know, the female body parts are very elastic. Normal sexual behaviours will result in next to no significant changes. Pornstars are a good example. some of them have had over 500 partners and still look stunning.
With every commment you make on this site, you expose yourself as a chavinistic, sexist, desperate for attention idiot.
Mantis fell my hand on this one. Too poor and ignorant.
That's telling him. I was about to object to the saggy body part but you have done such a beautiful job of it.
i think we need a post on the myths men have concerning the female anatomy. My eyes have seen today things that my mouth cannot repeat!
Tylenol for your pain?
@Dr. Mickey: Tylenol for your pain?
Thanx Dr… :*
Thank u joor!
I knew it. I knew this mantis person is a total novice when it comes to women. I bet he can't even name the 'parts' he is talking about.
When God was showering intelligence on the earth, this one was holding umbrella.
@Tiki: Says the battered Danfo bus.
Lwtmb….. F*uckery
I totally agree with you on that one.better to keep it to the barest minimum.dunno about the saggy body parts tho.
………..meanwhile while counting, does an orgy count as 1? and does bad sex count as 1/2? so you can add two bad experiences to equal 1 yeah?
Lmao! Yea…1/2 too if the guy doesn't cum. That's not really sex right? #okbye
hehehehehehe
u wish!
while we are there, are we counting anal or oral sex? what about hand jobs and the other 'jobs'?
Psst Rezza! Yo! You seem knowledgeable in these job topics. Would you mind filling my application form?
I'm not saying I'd like to add to the number. I would like yours though…for research pur…
Whatever. Call me. We need to talk.
*eyes rolling*
All this talk of jobs…………i shall be the interviewer!
Ok now I'm speechless
I see this calls for in-depth research of the matter. You should form a panel.
*howling with laughter*
Actually bad sex doesnt get to make the list. And if you peep pop, u know jus peek in and go out, jus a one night ish.. Nope! You dont count either. :|
Thankyou Mantis. ‘Keep it ti the barest minimun’ because it matters.
So if a girl has had 12 guys, slept with each 10 times on the average, she is worse than a girl that has had one boyfriend for 5 years, has at least 2 rounds a day, 3 times a week, every week for 5 years?
Abeg help me ask dem… Some guys are not thinking at all
My other question is:' in the second scenario, will she end up as bashed a danfo as PM says?' Lolz
Men just don't like feeling like they aren't the best. Even if you say you have had 100, as long as you make them believe they are the best, they will most likely not care.
I guess applying PM's logic would imply that most married women are very high mileage and approaching………..'Molue' status
@Mclovin: Remove the title in your name. Native doctors don't need the 'Dr.'.
There's a clause in your childish tirade "It depends on how she takes care of herself". You referred to pornstars, do you have any idea how much is invested into a pornstar's body? The repeated visits to the doctor, the vitamins, the medication and the surgery? How many women on the average can maintain their bodies the way a pornstar does? Whether the female body is elastic or not is inconsequential. The fact still remains that it needs to be maintained and this is expensive. Sex makes women age faster. Period.
You are the poster child for birth control.
On d contrary Its not d amount of people dey sleep with, its d drugs(contraceptives) dey r on dats d prob… Don't forget 9ja women do not gym 2 keep d body toned so @ a particular age (mid twenties) most of em av d same fat distribution.. Its actually d drugs, and lack of exercise. we forget as we mature our hormones mature with us.
Sex does not make a woman age faster. Stress does. A man who is clueless in bed, a know-it-all boyfriend, an egoistic, selfish husband…or a partner who disgraces you on social media. These makes women age faster.
Sound familiar?
@Tiki: LOL. Cheap shots, blithering idiot.
Try again.
Awwww, that hurt, did it? Keep talking – hopefully you'll get to the intelligent stuff soon. If it's there, that is.
Tiki really this isn't a contest. You aren't witty enough. Down pup. Down.
No, it isn't a contest. It's considered bad form to shoot a man who is unarmed.
You may now leave in peace. *sheathes weapon*
Conceding? What a shame.
If ignorance is bliss, you must be orgasmic.
I promise to miss you – now will you please run along and look for someone with time you can waste?
@Tiki: Now you're just trying too hard.
Btw, I haven't asked you the reasons why you've aged in such a despicable manner. You went on and on and on telling me why. But, I'm glad you shared. You should tell your partner this is how you feel.
My sympathies.
loooooool. This doesn't even deserve a proper comment.
LMAO @ You are the poster child for birth control.
Its disappointing to see guys actually thinking its by d amount of guys a girl sleeps with that determines her slacked p*ssy or saggy b*obs.
For d p*usy there r soaps and stuffs dat can even make a girl feel like a virgin and even bleed wen u f*ck her. Or she might just be f*cked by different small d*cks since u think physics (the law of elasticity) applies 2 d p*ssy. Don't forget babies pass thru dat same p*ssy and she still has and enjoys int*rcourse.
To the saggy b*obs… Only guys who have been with very few(like 2) girls will say saggy b*bs is by touching… Just d way d b*tt (y*ansh) has different designs and configs same applies 2 b*obs. Some banana (naturally saggy), odas melon, or orange or agbalumo (I hear tweeps calling moch**da #picksrace… Lol), or tomatoes. For d touching part, how do u wanna even squeeze d b*obs sef? Dat'll b enuf 2 make it sag, hmmm, dat ish is painful, mehn I will bend and squeeze ur d*ck if u maltreat my b*obs o! Is it orange or u wanna squeeze out milk… Hian
Now to the topic of the day… Don't tell me the amount just show me d skills… U will disappoint urself if after scr*wing so many people u didn't develop ur skills… Lol
10 guys plenty o… Kilode? How d tin dey do u? #whew get one person and train him to satisfy u constantly na….. Even ur p*ssy might speak one day outta frustration
Human…
Why are you cens*ring your shit?
Incase there r under 18 here
So na dat one letter go confuse the under-18s? looooool. Ok.
My dear its possible na, d way some people think here baffles me….
Hmmmmmmm…………….NOTED, emphasis on noted!!!
In addition to the soap, I heard from a chic actually that alum does a lot too. she graphically described how it feels like using it and how to tell the difference between original and alum inspired p*ssy too
Na wa o
When it comes to someone's sexual past, i only get 3 questions:
1) do you now or have you ever had any stds (no guessing, you need to actually have gotten tested)
2) do you have any children – or is there a possibility that somewhere theres a child walking around with eyes like your that you might not know about
3) have you smashed anyone i will have to see on a regular basis/is related to me?
Extra credit question: have you ever smashed someone of the same sex (hey, you never know)
Anything other than that is unnecessary information
If I knew you, I'd buy you a drink. Sexual past should matter only to the extent where it affects sexual future. Other than that…let the sleeping dog not only lie, but die if possible.
Some questions are better left unanswered or not asked because not many people can handle the truth.
Thank u o
As in! people be wanting to know, swearing they 'can handle it'. Immediately you tell them, story go change.
Exactly
Please. Even 2 sef is too much. One person. Only because I'm too haemophobic to take your virginity.
Lie to me. For my sake.
(•ˆ⌣ˆ•)
Keeping it real. (‾⌣‾)♉
Better still don't ask…
Me I don't even wanna know, what kind of curiosity is that
Used to ask when I was younger, now I can't develop HBP o! As far as I'm concerned I'm d 1st and only
lol. At least you are honest.
Errr. . . to contribute, I really agree with the person that said the WHO matters more than the HOW MANY.
That said, it doesn't REALLY matter as long as y'all respect what y'all have together in the here and now.
Thank you!
I concur, the who should be the point of focus and not how many. Correct Person
If some girls will be truthful sef, d one guy u have slept with can u calculate how many rounds in a day, den week, den months den d amount of years u av been 2geda… Lmao. I think its still beta dan a football team going thru ur p*ssy
Just have one bed mate dat will satisfy u well well dan sleep around, if u don't want a r/ship, or can't handle one. Imagine how ugly a p*nis is, and u allow plenty ugly things like that inside u?
A penis is ugly? in that case, a vajayjay is much uglier! lol
Not entirely… @ least it has pink lol
There is pink in a penis too, just that it is hardly seen.
This is Blasphemous……………..How dare you say LOCO is Ugg, i beg to differ
So now you are trying to compare someone who has slept with say 12 people on the average of 10 times ( or whatever average) to someone’s being in a relationship with one person over a period of time?
Pls where is your sense of decency?
I don't think anyone is comparing… And its not a question of decency o! And Bcos one is sleeping with one guy doesn't make d decent @ all
Most people r comparing based on d elasticity of the v*gina
It's not about decency. It's about the effect of regular sex. Whether the same guy or different ones, the 'wear and tear' is the same.
Wear and tear kwa……………the Vajayjay is designed to self lubricate, the viscosity of the lubricant at ambient temperature determines the collateral effect, and taking the medium into consideration i.e skin which is elastic on its own, meaning elastic coefficient is Zero, thus wear and tear is also Zero. In English, the wear and Tear effect is not applicable to the V.
This guy!!!! I followed your do-while loop and now we entered physics…trying to keep up is hard small o
If I give u maths to solve wahala go dey… See as u dey solve vjayjay matter
chief………go easy on the science, the vajayjay doesn't need so much analysis
If the nani is so elastic it would make Mr Fantastic wonder, tell me…why is it that when you're fucking some chicks, it feels like you're in a rocket ship, cos there's so much space around you? Huh?
Sometimes you feel like calling a few of your friends to come fill in the blanks.
Miss me with that shit.
Ur p*nis is either too small or its too small.
Lemme tell u:
Thin girls can take big d*cks
Very thin girls can take very big d*cks
Fat girls are tighter so dey can handle small ones or average…. Big ones become painful
U can't av a small d*ck and love thin girls… Are u "joseph"
Erm.. are we saying weight has bearing on the depth of the vjayjay?
:s
Nope… Chubby chics have more fat around d v*gina(u guys call it cushion effect/feeling)
but that's not what you said above though. 'Around' is totally different from 'within'.. and body mass has no bearing on depth.. All vjayjay's can expand to accommodate larger sizes however just like any system exposed to excessive pressure there is bound to be wear and tear.. This is possibly what Terdoh was trying to say…
Lmao @ wear and tear! I personally don't think wear and tear is possible… May be if u have taken severally deliveries u wld agree with me…
A woman on her 6th child had episiotomy and d baby wasn't even big.
I've not had s*x with a girl b4… And I don't av a penis either
mayb u shld ask a guy who has big sometin and has done a big and slim chic.. And listen 2 his response.
Err.. you took the 'wear and tear' literally? Camman… I'm sure you understand what I meant.. And I don't need to be obvious, I KNOW what I'm talking about..
Hmmmmmmmmmm!
I wish there was a way for me to answer this question and survive the backlash.
Express yourself honey.
You're on TNC.
loool. thanks, but no thanks.
She has spoken………………..*Scratched Head* have tested this hypothesis, if yes, i need figures if no, repeat thesis!! QED
what's Joseph's own in this matter……..*covers face*
Maybe because you ain't packing enough. Gotta learn to stop chasing waterfalls,pls stick to the rivers and the lakes you are used to!
Lmao
You make me laugh.
I'll let it slide.
lol, thanx!
@Tiki: This relentless dunce is quoting TLC, calm down.
Sweetie, I'm as calm as ice on tit. plus I make sense. which is more than I can say for you.
Where was i when all this drama was unfolding……iznorgu oh
I know this feeling, I can relate Terdoh
Its what a high number of sexual partners says about you. If you have a weak resolve or cannot say no to anyone or anything – this is a problem. If your'e jaded this is also a problem. Absolutely incapable of delaying gratification – huge problem. I will ask and I will judge, I'm only human. What I do thereafter is another matter entirely though. You don't just discard someone because they had an 'eventful' past. So many things make up a person.
I don't think keeping mute or lying about it is cool either. Details are not necessary but lay everything on the table. I wouldn't want any one (anyone of importance) seeing me through rose -coloured glasses abeg. If you've had many sexual partners wouldn't you want to know how he or she feels about that? You never know, it might end up being a plus. There are some who find virgins repulsive or they think they're too much wahala to deal with. If you're a virgin wouldn't you want to know this?
Most people believe timing is key. I think so too. I also think that not everyone is entitled to details of your personal life. Only those invested in you should even have the right to ask you. You've been hanging out for a couple of weeks and your'e already spilling your guts. That's just silly. My opinion sha.
I read ur post and felt sleepy
Wake up! Don't make me pour water on you o.
Oya I'm awake
Mantis, if a woman has had sex with 20 men, once with each one, I bliv she won't be saggy and battered and grotesque. :D Plus such a woman may jus be in search of someone to fully satisfy her sexually and she just ups and leave each time.:p
*Yawns*
Having too many sexual partners is a sign that there is something fundamentally wrong somewhere…giving yourself to one guy is hard enough, then how can you give yourself to 10 or more guys? And by the way….at least with a virgin, u know where he/she has been..NOWHERE!!!…so no need for questions
If some girls will be truthful sef, d one guy u have slept with can u calculate how many rounds in a day, den week, den months den d amount of years u av been 2geda… Lmao. I think its still beta dan a football team going thru ur p*ssy
This issue will forever be sensitive and important in building lasting/healthy relationships. The sooner u get this the better.
Same way men take sex casually is the same way they take it seriously when they are genuinely into.
The differnce btw a lady who has slept with 12 people ( even if it is once each) and one who has slept with one person a million times is that the latter can be TRUSTED sexually. I swear ask anybody.
I think u don't get me… I actually said "its still better dan allowing a football field going thru u" meaning its better to sleep with one guy severally dan a lot of guys even if its once
On d long run, we r saying d same tin
Thou shall not commit fornication or adultery… Keep ur body holy, no premarital sex!
But will anyone listen?
You listened.
Right?
¬_¬
Erm erm erm erm… *stammering I I I I I erm erm erm… *walks out and slams door
Ouch!!!
Lol!
#Painment
Did you
Please sapphire tell them, teach them very well, you have a Phd on this issue.
some girls naturally have a wide veejayjay, once the hymen is broken gbam! the thing just expands like that (read the Godfather you'll see a case like that there). while some girls no matter how many mileages they run, it dsnt show. there are also exercises you can do to make it contrast. so if she lies, how then can you tell
enough of vejay analysis, for guys that think they are invisible, if you've swam in every ocean available you are a WHORE! male prostitute, ashawo kobo kobo, cos u a human also and you should have standards.
on a last note, any d*ck that has f*cked another mans ass dsnt deserve any girl even if shes been with a thousand guys, infact d thing should be cut off and the owner sent to Alcatraz..
Erm.. You are right, some girls come wide but pls, dont get it twisted. This is very very very rare and I\’m hope a gyne can confirm this…
I'm not a gyn tho.. But I can confirm it!
ok…… an honest question tho; does a vejay expand with every encounter? there are so many conflicted opinions here, can an expert or a person with access to an expert confirm and let us know. so after all these arguments, at least we leave here with some true enlightenment :]Y
Too many used and battered females (danfos) on TNC.
My condolences, ladies.
some girls are angry sha … guilty conscience
LOOL.. I dont even know what to say. Being female, I may be moved to ask my man how many partners he has had. It really should not matter though and bygones can really just be bygones.. I really do not know. Will seat on the fence for this.
Wear and tear? Is it rubber shoe or cloth? Mehn our vjayjay don receive names 2day.
Most of u saying u'll leave her if she tells u she has done 10 guys, lemme tell u dat u prolly won't find anyone who will tell u d truth… What's worse is dat u might b dating someone who has done way more dan dat and be giving her steady head (cunnilingus) and u av d impression u r her 2nd
Lwtmb….
Reeks of a lotta truth!
Now this is scary
I don't wanna know! Besides, no mata d no. She gives, its ganna b too much – yet am not a sucker 4 virgin-ing…
Btwn z mantis n tiki kidding or u jus joke tooo far?
D guys saying wear and tear, and battering, make sure u do one round, missionary position and once in 3 months… Its people like u guys dat will wanna do left, front, center, right, back, spoon, plate, side, back, doggi, catty, on d roof, on d air, etc… Yet u talk about battering and wear and tear… Don't "do" just stare and d vjayjay and wank 2 it or better still smile at it wen u see it wet, so dat it will be well preserved and be free from wear and tear.
I'm not saying plenty guys tingy is right at d same time is 1 guy not enuf 2 turn d vjayjay to "okrika" without value or better still a wide well… Or make it worn out as u said
"Toolsman" ur name even sounds brutal or shld I say like someone dat can customize a v*gina with his "tool" mr "tools"man
Very funny. You ma lady is very blunt with a humor
LWKMD. Wank to it. Or better still smile @ it when its wet.
U succeded in making me comment, "Don't "do" just stare and d vjayjay and wank 2 it or better still smile at it wen u see it wet, so dat it will be well preserved and be free from wear and tear. " ROTFLMAO
I vote NO
@sapphire not all pneeneez are ugly ok? jus think of a chocolate-coated banana..lwkm. and vjayjay is elastic ryt? meanwhile, i agree that the number of sex partners you've had does matter. cos ders too much of everything and in a lot of cases its not good. evrytin in moderation y'all.
TNC seem to be the topic in my office today. I like Tiki, sapphire, shotzss, sarkastiq and the rest I cannot recall their names, they make this place lively. I voted I don't care about my partners past
Oh yer! My head is swelling, thanx darl…. *pops collar rolls eyes and cat walks away
P.S as long as her vjayjay wraps around my peeneenee like a glove and we can be creative,adventurous with maximizing our lovemaking pleasure, its all gud for me and my soulmate.
I don't think I wanna know as long as the past stays in the past and bygones be bygones.cuz personally I think wanting to know is just torture
The hell wud u want to know that for? Let's help ourselves sumtimes, people. Don't ask. Wats the point?
If I was a supporter of lies, I wud probably say: Lady, better lie. And remember that lie 4eva. U love him, don't u? U tell him the truth, it myt hurt hhm. Lie to him, ur baby's happy! (ˆ⌣ˆ) Make ur pick.
But I'm not pro-lies. Be wise sha.
P.S. I heard of this 26yr old whose number at last count was 86. Wat wud u tell her to do? ¯\..(•͡.̮ •͡ )../¯
P.S.2 Option 4 slayed me! *rolls away*
Damn I wanted to read more from your blog but I have to catch my interview. I guest I just have to bookmark you on my browser.
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well, while I'm still a virgin (._. ). If she has more than three dudes she's a Ho! But i wont ask, except she tells. If she can satisfy me, I'm at rest. nuff said.
What's the point? As long as the d*ck fits in the vajayjay,……to hell with the past mehn!!!
for me…the number matters.I can only stomach 1 partner…and it has to be a case of " I was naive"…..any number above that I automatically assume its 3 times the number she claims she has slept with.
1. The number doesn't matter to me. It is her attitude towards it that matters. The girl in this post makes a good point for the reason she has that number.
2. Knowing makes all kinds of weird analysis part of your life. Logically i know i don't have to know. But i'm too much of a curious person so i almost always ask when we are in the friendly getting to know each other stage. Then if it bothers me, i can keep it a friendship from then.
3. Basically, i'll say it doesn't really matter to me. I'd be more uncomfortable if she told me she had fallen in love with 12 people in the last four years.
i dont care. as long as its one at a time