Published on May 9th, 2012 | by thetoolsman31
Of Double Standards, Sexism & More
The thing about ‘double standards’ is, they almost always come in doubles. For every single one put forward by men, I can almost find a counter/matching one presented by women. This is quite interesting especially for someone who jokes about the fact that women possibly invented the term double standards. Yes, men probably don’t process a lot of things as double standards but that can easily be ascribed to our ego issues – even with the rise of the EMOs, most men will almost never willingly play the victim.
I got involved in some discussions on double standards over the last couple of days and I found it almost infuriating when I discovered there seems to be a growing trend in which women often synonymize sexism and misogyny all in the name of protesting male propagated double standards. This is certainly one for another post but as a way of possibly finding an agreeable midpoint between both sexes, Sheila and I have decided to dedicate today’s post to discussing common Double Standards.
We have highlighted some common double standards below:
The Trophy Girl
Enough is enough with guys defining their taste in women based on what’s popular on TV. Let’s be real if you have a keg (*ahem* one pack) and not a 6-pack please stop going around saying you want a girl that looks like Beyonce or Kelly Rowland, whether you have money or not. Women are often asked to focus on the inner qualities of a man even though the men find it hard to focus on the inner qualities of a woman. If ladies are meant to look beyond physical appearance then please you can do the same too!
Miss 3 Looking for Mr. 10
You have flab flying everywhere, the folds on your stomach neatly sit on one another making your mid region look like a pile of neatly folded clothes; you use makeup – but then, maybe you shouldn’t because it doesn’t really do much to hide the fact that you’re not exactly a ‘natural beauty’. No problem there; neither is Saint Obi. The issue comes from the fact that you only want to date Tyson Beckford lookalikes. How on earth do we reconcile this?
The Good Girl
The only time you go to your place of worship (church or mosque) is for landmark celebrations or thanksgiving services in the year BUT YET you want the girl who is the religious sister, in tune with God and knows how to pray because you need a prayerful woman in your life. She must be in church every Sunday and preferably in the choir; she should be the saint and the angel in your life while you remain the demon, the tempting devil that the holy book warns her about.
Bad Is Good
He is never late – never. He always gets the door for you. He listens to your every word – Every. Single. Word. He never complains and trusts you better than your own parents. Now, doesn’t this just describe the perfect boyfriend? NO. She wants him to be these things but only three days a week? On other days, she wants some drama; she doesn’t want him to be so freaking good all the time. Maybe even cheat on her a couple of times just so she knows he’s a MAN. Yes, she wants him to be BAD but in a GOOD way. Get it?
The Independent dependent woman
This is a relatively new standard that is quite ridiculous but here goes. You don’t want a housewife yet your woman must not earn more than you, in other words, she must be independent but still depend on you, an achiever but cannot achieve more than you. Back in the day, ladies chose to stay dumb because they wanted to get married now ladies have to get smart but still keep some form of dumbness so they can still remain accepted by the men of our society.
Can you pay my bills?
She has a job, a good one too. Who knows, she might even be making as much, if not more than you but all of that is HER money. She wants a man that can take all, or at least most of her financial burdens away so she can enjoy spending HER money on the other ‘important’ things, you know, like keeping it saved in an account. Her man has to show that he is capable from the get go. From the first date, he’s ‘expected’ to handle the bill afterall he asked her out didn’t he?
So there you have it, some common double standards. Let’s take a look at them and try to dismiss or justify them. You can also help us out by putting up some double standards worth discussing. You know the drill, use the comment box and speak your mind. Cheers.