Fat Debate.
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Ok, we are done with that, so on to today’s dialogue.
A couple of weeks back, I got into an argument with a friend of mine about cosmetic surgeries, weight issues etc and the average young African’s opinion on them. The female end was pretty easy to figure out. A lot of young women out there are probably open to the idea as long as they can afford it, heck I even have a few friends who have been saving up for boob jobs for the past couple of years. The part that really interests me is the guys.
I have a friend who I remember clearly was the dictionary definition of TDH when we were growing up. Dude was 6ft plus, looked decent and had a good build. Well, that was when he was about 24. Fast forward a few years, he’s 29 and about to get married and I just stopped to take a proper look at him and I realized he had gone from TDH to TDP (tall dark and potbellied). And when I say potbellied, I mean, dude was ‘hanging’. I couldn’t bring myself to tell him to his face so I started hinting, making jokes (I even showed him a picture we had taken together a couple of years back and put it side by side a recent one)
Well, he finally got the message, well, more like his fiancé got it but instead of scolding me or whatever, I remember how she hugged her man from behind and started rubbing on his belly. She then said, “leave my man and his belly, I like him just like that. Don’t you know it’s even good for when we are doing the do… it cushions my movement.”
At that point I was like ‘oh’… I really couldn’t say any other thing. I just wondered within myself about the situation and I really wanted to know: if he had a way out. Like an absolutely free (moneywise) and stress-less (no exercise) way for him to get back his old figure, would he do it?
I’ve met a lot of young men who judge women who ‘manipulate’ or should I say ‘enhance’ their bodies. Today, I’d like to spotlight the men. Help me out with the poll I have below. And then use the comment box to explain why you chose your answer. For the women reading, I’d also like your input. If you’re married or you fall in love with a man and someway, somehow, he loses ‘shape’ and you’re financially capable, would you consider giving him a gift of a surgery? Or would you suggest it? Use the comment box and speak your mind. Cheers.
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PS: maybe guys can also tell us which part(s) they’ll spend their $10,000 on?
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Nah. Me am good Already.
I would suggest he joins me as I do my own workouts. I can't be stressing myself to look good while he just lies around carrying pregnancy wey I don born finish. If all that fails we'll do his and hers surgery :D
Cosmetic Surgery? Heck No!
My Job description entails wearing clothes(, and I look good in 'em clothes)
As long as there's no health risk, my '1 pack' is fine! Besides she's not complaining, Yet.
". . . it cushions her movement" :D – Soon to be Maybach Music Hook.
Cosmetic kini? I jog he bloody jogs too! I work out, wt is he waiting for? Cosmetic nonsense, owo o le waste mehn!
Some people's cases are way past exercise. I would definitely give him the gift of surgery if i can afford it.
Who am i to say No when i already know what I would be working on in the nearest future?
I voted yes. And this 10 grand will not be spent above the waist. I've got that covered. :)
working out she be a lifestyle jor, some men r just plain lazy when it comes to exercise. he should sweat it out so he can guide it … yes money cannot waste.
For a guy who is a gym freak…pot bellee no dey my future. ┐('⌣'┐) (┌'⌣')┌ ƪ(˘⌣˘)┐ ┌(˘.˘)ʃ
But why spend money to get surgery when u can just whip ur ass into shape and change ur diet? Spending money on surgery shows ur ass is just lazy and u probably would get fat again in another 6months.
No Pain No Gain!!!
Sounds like a sub.. so what would you say about the women who favour surgery?
Sho will you be my baby daddy *batting lashes*
I will probably have some cosmetic adjustments to my face, a little belly reduction (its not a pot belly but I'd like it completely flat- no six packs, thanks) and some other minor reductions done.
Not because there's anything wrong with my appearance but because there's room for a little improvement and its free :)
Been climbing the exercise ladder for a while with progress, a short-cut would be nice.
Yes surgery! His n Hers. ^_^
Say no to comsetic surgery
It won't be cool to look good if everybody starts looking good
End of Conversation
My husband has developed some "love handles" unfortunately after approx 2years of marriage. I see surgery as a lazy way out. He can work out and adjust his habits to lose the weight. I do the same to keep in shape after childbirth. I, on the other hand would have surgery (a breast uplift only) to enhance my looks cos gym time can't help with what nurturing 2 babies has done to my boobies.
i totally agree with you, any other thing asides breast upliftment den gym will do…..as for my hubby, he shall loose the fat by force o, even if it means me changing his diet….he shall eat more of sticks just like V beckam
@Yinks I agree with you. I'm definitely planning on getting my boobs done after having my babies, even if it means that I would have to save for years.
ok o.
I see many ladies are being hypocrites as usual.
Surgery is the lazy way of 'looking fit'. I'd rather we hit the gym and set realistic targets for each other.
The only thing that can make me pay for mγ husband's surgery is if he is a morbid obese person (thought I'd have shoo-ed him out of the house way b4 then) :p
Once surgery comes into the picture, you lose the zeal for exercise, and hence u may end up worse; because you kid yourself that u fit because you are trim.
Say no to plastic surgery
And; NO!!!! A pot belly does not make sex more comfortable. Girl is just psyching herself up.
I don't know why females go for Boob Jobs…all boobs look the same during sex NOT to mention if you love going from behind. The bigger it is the more ache you'll experience as you grow older because your skin loses elasticity. As a guy why would I need 10k for an op…it can never make anyone Mr. Right.
There are more women than men in the world. This means that there are more women desperate to get married and therefore a man shouldn't bother about his looks or figure because pot-bellied or not, there will always be a woman to rub it. It is the women who should be worried about their looks. Unless of course, a man wants to go the extra mile for his wife.
The scenario in the post about a lady happy and probably excited with her man's flabs shows a woman who's simply contended she's landed herself a man. How he looks before and after is inconsequential to her. As long as her biological clock has been sorted out, her single friends are still gnashing their teeth and her parents are expecting grandchildren, she's happy and finds her man's flabs attractive.
I also don't subscribe to women and cosmetic surgery. I find it utterly disgusting. If it isn't real, it's a rotten deal.
Honey, if u fall our collective hand like this again i'm locking u up in the house (& seizing ur access to the interwebs!) It's contenTed. :D :P
@Annie: For better or worse, you'd still rub my belly though, yes?
@Mantis my luv: Naturally boo, after all u'll be rubbing mine too! *sigh* The things we do 4 love eh? :D
what's all this gist about surgery being the lazy route? what happens to the skin that has been stretched out and remains in excess when a fat person loses weight?
maybe those of us who had protruding dentition as kids should have made manual efforts at pushing them in with our hands everyday rather than use braces.
if you are moderately overweight, exercise wont kill you and would be your best bet. would help your cardiovascular system. otherwise if morbidly obese and exercise hasn't helped, or you don't like the way you look (breast drooping, face sagging, belly curtains that have been there so long you cant remember what your genitals look like) don't be stingy with that money. Give it to your doctor and get yourself some gastric bypass, tummy tuck, liposuction etc). believe me, any other thing you spend that money on would kill you faster.
If I can, I'd definitely offer my man the gift of plastic surgery but only after we've previously talked and agreed on it. But,we'd try the exercise routine and only after its failed or if he's excessively big would we consider surgery.
But wait,why would my man wanna torture me by becoming big? :( I try to keep my weight in check too na :(
I'd register us at a gym and we'll go thru the workouts together.that will encourage him and who knows we might both need it.so no τ̅☺ cosmetic surgery.there are other ways to burn the fat and lose the weight
As for me, cosmetic surgeries r only for life threatening situations, accidents n post cancer repairs. My wife doing a boob job is for who to see, is it not me? Ladies?
I don't buy the idea of cosmetic surgeries n Dr 90210 has sealed my mind about it. Most ladies that do it KEEP ON doing it. It's like a complex thing. If u don't feel comfortable in your own body, u probably never will with a six pack n all.
I pack a lil som'n around the abdomen n paying a yearly membership at the gym n spa to burn this off. The skin looks better when toned via exercise.
P.S: Lotsa girl kinda unconsciously love rubbing pot bellies. I'm talking from experience! :D
Y'all stay deceiving yourselves behind your laptops and your blackbery keypads. So no one here is fat or overweight -males and females inclusive? Im totally getting y'all.
LOL!!! Don't mind them! A few years ago i was a size 14,big,flabby,clumsy,d butt of numerous weight jokes,u name it…through a determined effort to prove my plenty detractors wrong,i worked out n i'm a size 10 now…funny thing is those my size 8 n below bullies are now "proudly" size 18 and counting!!! :D
Ha ha ha! D post jst described my bobo :)
I kinda tease him about d big belly and he works out to try and be&stay fit.
No, i wont support surgery. Exercise and a gud diet
My mum recently told my dad she was going to sponsor him for a lipo/tummy tuck next year and i totally agree with her…d guy own don pass exercise level! #InOtherNotSoRelatedNews, please where can a girl get her boobs done biko? FYI,I am dead serious. -_-
for the lady i gat no objections…looking good is good business…that's if its affordable…but for moi the guy…never…i'm so football i have never thought in the direction of a surgery…exercise does it all….