Height Aint Nothing But A Number
I had a conversation with my homegirl recently centered around one important dealbreaker: Height. To give you some background, she’s about 5’11-6ft barefoot, same height as me, (and DON’T try to dispute this), and she emphatically stated that she refuses to date a man shorter than herself. I wasn’t aware that height was that big of an issue, but she quickly pointed out a few reasons why dudes would be denied from getting on the ride if they didn’t reach her height line:
Can’t have a man shorter than my mom - Her mom is about 5’6″ – 5’8″ and she can’t have a man shorter than mom dukes. I laughed at this one. I didn’t see the real logic in it, but I guess because she doesn’t feel her mom should tower over the man she’s dating? I’m like damn what if they were a WNBA family, I’d look like a boy amongst Amazons!
“I want to wear heels!” - My homie is obsessed, she is worse than Carrie Bradshaw. She would cook dinner naked for a man who copped her Louboutins, yes, she loves high heels! Heels are a must when she’s hittin the runway or the hottest party in the city (LOL @ me sounding like one of those fashion show emcees). She’s taller than me with heels (but not by much), so I can see how a short brother would look like her son next to her. She doesn’t want to compromise her fashion for a dude’s ego, and I can respect that.
Security – This goes hand in hand with the mom point. She wants to feel secure with her man, that she can protect her and take care of her. Height plays a role in this for her. A man taller than her has more presence and stature and comes across as that dude who can break her back in 7 places hold her down if she needs assistance.
Masculinity - In her own words “Being tall gives you that athletic persona, and makes you more of a man”. **shots fired**
I know that dudes have similar height biases as well. Men may prefer a shorter or taller women depending on their personal preference. My older cousin loves.women.taller.than.HIM! It’s damn near comical that he’ll stay with a woman at least 3 inches taller than him or better. Some dudes love the endless sexy legs on a taller woman, all the advanced moves you can do in the bedroom with that extra height, and just the model chick aesthetic in general. Other men feel insecure about having a woman taller than them, want to tower over their lady, and not feel like she can beat them down like a little boy next to them. They also don’t feel like standing on stepping stools anytime pictures/video is taken! I’ve never heard a real negative to dating a woman shorter than a man.
I have no real preference when dating in regards to height. I don’t know if I could date a woman extremely taller than me, just because my neck would hurt from looking up all the time. Seriously, I’ve dated taller, my height, and shorter, and I see no big deal. I know women who inquired about me ‘breathe a sigh of relief’ anytime they hear my height, so I know its a prevalent issue. So, over to you guys, LADIES, Would you date a man shorter than you? Men, will you date a woman taller than you? And will your preference change when marriage comes into the picture? Use the comment box to express you.
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Well, i prefer them shorter than me. I've never really been attracted to tall, slim ladies. But if she's taller and very buxom, ;)
you just had to add the buxom bit -__-
I've always had a preference for taller ladies.. I'm a whopping 5.9 myself. So most going out with a smaller chick makes me feel like she's a n accessory. :)
When it comes to big the M i can compromise but only by a few centimeters..
Sorry to burst your bubble man, but nothing 'whopping' about a 5.9..
tools! haba! was having a moment… :(
Hahahhahaha!
as in!!! me that I'm 5.10 nko? *rme…
5"9' is whopping? No way, bro. I'm 5"9, and I'm average height for a man.
you sure u know your height?
since when did 5"9 turn average.. ??
i think id been drafted by now if it was
Tools just had to spoil it. Let a brother inflate his own ego……………….lol
Whooping ? 5’9″ LOL! Pls park well
LOL, I can’t date a guy I’m taller than either, P.S: I’m short 5’5. I wouldn’t feel safe either
I really wonder how ladies attribute height to security.. He can still get his ass whooped if hes 7 feet..
thank you my brother..
az in!!!!! 6' 2" sef dey chop a whole can of whoop ass now. so no be by height really. Erm why una dey dey downgrade the brother 5' 9" na ahn ahn. lol
the "huggging" n "cuddling" factor tho
What he said!!!! I can be 4'5 but my wallet tells all the story
She’s 5’5 … Any man shorter than her is a dwarf.
at 5ft 10" I have nothing against the short brothers but i agree with home girl on security and heels, I want a man that is still taller than I am when I decide to emphasize the long legs with heels…
In summary,
I prefer men I can look up to…literally
Will you still have the same opinion in 4 years?
this opinion has been the same for years and will be the same in 4 years
… I tried dating someone shorter, felt weird…so now i can manage someone that's at least 2 -3 inches taller…at least i can still buy shoes with little heels na
by the way, there's somewhere in Asia, where people go for surgery to be taller… http://www.ginza-kojima.jp/FL/EN/height.html
Had a girlfriend who refused to date dudes that were shorter than her, she's like 5'10, now she's married to a dude that's like 5'5.
So, my dear, never say never.
As for me, I'm 5'2, dude has to be taaallllller, shortness is a deal breaker for me.
I met this tiny, not just short dude, he was perfect, and feelings were mutual, but I had to keep reminding him that he was too short for me, mean I know, but I wouldn't want to be ashamed to show him off.
@ Bee – yea never say never for you too :)
Yeah, true that!…but it's scary!
I'm 5'6" n i've always preferred ladies that are taller
This hit really close to home, cos I’m having this problem now.
There’s this really witty, nice guy, but he’s about 5’6 and I’m 5’8. He’s completely comfortable with his height, and he doesn’t mind mine, which is a good thing. But I have to wear flats when we hang out. My friends keep saying “you can’t date your shoes can you?” But I won’t lie, I’m not enthusiastic about the height. I like tall guys. I’m still dealing with it, I haven’t even decided what to do yet.
For me, its 6 feet and above anyday…I can’t date someone below six feet…I just can’t…its the only thing I’m extremely picky about when it comes to men…the height!
Ok you had rather have a hunk at 6ft but face like Taribo west?
LMFAO
Hmmm
Heehehe. Finally, tools wrote a post for me.
I'm 6"1, still wear 4" heels, irrespective what anyone says (can't a sister just be fashionable?). I come from a family where the average height I'd 6"3, so I'm on d short end.
I have no issues with height, if the man doesn't. NOTE the word MAN. I have dated only one man who's 6"6, d others were my height or way briefer.
I'd like to marry someone of the same height, or taller (if possible), but since I tend to focus on character and not physical attributes…. I no know ooo.
Hello Baby!!!! why i keep associating a short, petite image to your name, i dont know.
You only come here to set P…too thirsty
Lmao…why so pained? Sent from my BlackBerry wireless device
Cos u do a lot of beating around the bush…
No one gets the box that way
If he gets the box or not, how does that help you? Or are you looking for a job as his life coach? This box of a tin is gaju
But you are married…focus on your "life box" please
@Adaora: my brothers range from 6″2 to 6″8, so wearing heels really isn't an issue for me. My sister is 6″3 and the only heels she can wear are platforms. I think she's afraid of keeling over. @Tools and @s_Hotzs: where and how did both of you arrive at that? Na wa o. Small and petite? I'm anything but. More like big, bad and scary. Lol. :p Wait, them don start to set P for TNC?Sent from my BlackBerry wireless device from MTN
Wow! I’m 5’11 and wearing heels sometimes make me feel weird! Kudos to you! Of course I want to date someone taller than me. I won’t be so conscious of my height then
6''1 though.. Funny how I also thought you were little and cute and all.. oh well.. Tall and cute it is then..
I’m 6’1 and I prefer girls that are as tall as me in heels (or without) or close to. If you’re taller, that’s fine as well but NOT bigger. That’s freakish. Short girls… 5’3-5’5. Nah. I don’t want to go so low when we grinding in the club. -__- *scampers off*
You should try it, I mean going low when grinding, it's very……………………..
So club is d ish 4u…. Smh
First of all, go down low
Loll @ whopping 5:9 dats short for a guy ( ˘˘̯) toolsman u always hv female paddys coming in handy for diff topics I'm beginning to suspect u sef 'rme'. I'm 5:6, average for a girl cnt date a guy shorter dan me na haa dat one na midget tins.
5ft 7 is average :p
that's what i was told o *picks race*
5:5 is average jare
If ur shorter dn me ur a midget n if ur taller ur a giant :p #np as long as I'm good…
LOL.
Thumbs up
BUhahahahahahahaha
Abi na lol
Well technically physical attributes don't mean much to me, but lets be serious, Men have Egos, i cant go looking like my boo's son or younger brother, oh puliz. i am 5'9 and i still see me as short *Wait, cant a brother ask for more*, Yo, if you is taller than me, then i am sorry we have a problem .
PS: Where is Sapphire and Tiki, this house is empty
I'm here baby
Miss you so much boo. Bbm me ur instagram handle. Tianz Sent from my BlackBerry wireless device
Height is a very important issue for me o….I’m 5’9 and I’d love a guy I can look up to..plus I have to do the lock-arms-around-neck and raise-one-leg-up-while-kissing thingie
Gbam..i strongly agree
So I'm roughly 6ft 1 with Plimsolls – __ – & tho I'm usually open ended on criteria like these, I don't think I'll be too comfy with a 6"3ish Broad. Why? Because one day she'll Vex and do a Loub/Gele combo and with that level of 'Tower of Babel' Oddity, peeps might just feel we have something to prove. ¯\ \ ..(•͡.̮ •͡ ) .. / /¯™
I'm not even tall (5ft6 -5ft7) so anyone shorter than me isn't just right…
Im 5’11,cnt wear heels to save my life & i have dated dem all..same height,shorter & taller dan I am.I rili dont care..bt I have to admit having a Lemar Odom or Shaquille O’neal kinda brother by my side as arm candy,doesnt hurt & he earns major points wit my mum.
Ilike d pix for 2days topic
I've seen girls 6'3" before and they were scary. I dunno, can a lady that tall not be awkward and out of proportion? Cos if you do 4 inches on top of 5'11", wont that be making you look like you're on stilts? Oh well, I thank God my wife is shorter than I am. I like it cos it's romantic to kiss downwards for the man. And I can carry her easily when I feel like. :D
Thanx for announcing u r off d market..
my exact thoughts
Better announce your own too and stop giving all these thirsty boys hope.
He not only announced, even made reference to 'carrying' >_>
This is how it should be
I like ladies almost as tall as I am (barefoot) & prolly same height or a lil taller in heels. Tall ladies are attractive but I doubt if I can date a lady way taller than I am, the extremely short ones are problematic … (from experience) -_-
Please, enlighten us?
What do you mean when you say problematic?
:-|
I don't WANT a short dude but if a short man ends up being who i fall in love with then so be it. Please God not too short though lol
Taller guys. Actually, Taller PEOPLE. There's just something extra-ordinary about tall people. Once I saw this guy so tall, from side-view, it looked like someone on a horse. Beautiful to watch. :') Still training myself to stop staring at tall folks.
A tall man any day. I'm 5'10(ish), so tall for me is 6'(1) and above. I'm not even gon lie. Its that 1st factor. Sexiness.
I agree with christabel on this one…. I'm 5'6" and I LOVE to wear heels. I generally appreciate it when the guy towers over me, and I love the cute little tiptoe to get my kisses. ;)
Short guys have small winnies #okbye
Lie! Big lie
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL.
so i'm dating this really short guy, but standing on his wallet dude is TALL!!! Bottom line, I couldn't careless the height of my man.
I like them taller, although I have dated only two guys taller than I am. But its so romantic having your dude taller that you and the things that can be accomplished in the bedroom *sigh*
*than*
Had to comment……..
I'm short, like really short. 5'3 to be precise.. Whoever I'm dating or will date has no right to be short. Period.
my thoughts exactly.
Stories dat touch! God knows all d 6ft and more colleagues n girlies I know barely married any1 taller. Au realistic is getting a taller brother. Yle u young, keep up d search. But wen dat clock starts slowing down, I won’t be surprised to see her ‘dwafting’!
Height really isn't an issue as far as I am concerned. Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban on one side and Tony Parker and Eva Longoria on another.
I'm 5'5/5'6 and I like wearing heels. I don't like people that are TOO tall. For me, just tall enough is okay and that's about 5'11 to 6'1.
Even though I know that being tall doesn't mean you're strong, being tall makes you seem strong for some unknown reason. It's really hard to explain it. Being tall gives guys cool (and sexy) points
That being said, I will wear flats if I have to. And when I'm going out without the guy, i'll wear heels. Finish
I'm 5"11 dating a guy who's 5"5 tall.
Ticks all my boxes except his height.
I love to wear heels too and we recently attended a wedding with me rocking my heels.
LMAOOO! It was a sight! We kept cracking up each time we stood up. Suffice to say, I'm not gonna be wearing heels anymore.
We are not doing badly but sometimes I wish he were at least my height.
I am 5:11, nd I never imagined maself dating someone shorter, I always wanted a taller person but hey look at me, I’m dating a man I am taller dan, surprisingly it dosnt bother me no more…..I think height dosnt matter, as far as the person aint so short, like dwarf short
Up till today, an ex doesn't know I broke up with him because of the height issue…well and a few other factors
I'm like 5'9 and he is about 5'5.
It was hard I wont lie. to the point the day my dad saw him, he asked if he was my younger brothers friend.
Nah, I'm sorry…that height thing they take style worry me.
We cannot be taking pictures from an Ariel view and it's only the tip of his head that will show, while my head and neck shows.
I practically sit up crying at night solely because we men that got stuck at 5’6″ basically get NO LOVE anymore…it’s like some racism/apartheid shii. :( extremely saddening.