Published on January 23rd, 2013 | by Sheila29
He’s Old Enough
While having dinner with a few friends, the issue of dating younger men came up because, one of us got asked out by a guy that is two years younger and she did not know how to handle the situation. So when I say younger men, I don’t mean those who are barely legal (abeg nobody wants to go to jail), I mean men who are old enough, responsible, mature, but just happen to be younger than you are; could be one, five or eight years younger (depends on the age as stated on your birth certificate).
Dating younger men is not entirely new in Nigeria, but with the stigma attached, it is hardly acknowledged and sometimes regarded as a taboo. These days though, the issue of age is hardly discussed and we are beginning to see the rise of older women and younger men in relationships. Celebrities like Darey Art Alade and Peter Okoye have proven that such relationships can be successful regardless of what anyone thinks or says in our society.
I went ahead to ask a few friends about this reverse age gap situation and as expected, guys are more open to women being older as long as she doesn’t look it and she respects him whereas women are more cautious of ‘what people would say even if the young man in question treats her better than any other man in her life.
Ladies who do not care about people’s opinion, gave me several reasons why they would date a younger man and the top reasons were:
He has a point to prove – because of the obvious age gap, a younger man would want to prove to you that he is capable of being in charge especially in a society where he is most likely being tagged a toy boy for hanging around you
You get to feel and look younger – it’s bad enough that you are older than him, feeling and looking older is definitely not part of the plan. So you are forced to look younger either by working out or dressing the part.
He thinks you know what you are doing – for some people, knowledge and maturity comes with age and since you are older then you should definitely know more and be more mature.
And there you have it, my question today on Wednesday dialogues is Ladies, are you open to dating men that are younger than you are and do you have a limit to how young he can be – How Young is Old enough? And for the guys, would you date an older woman and how much older can she be – How Old is Young enough? Also, if you have been or are in a relationship as an older woman or a younger man, what are your own thoughts, experiences? You know what to do, use the comment box… express you.