Magas et Magettes.
I just can’t thank God enough for Emmanuel.
He’s just so… amazing.
Gosh, don’t even get me started with his looks.
Oh, his looks.
Those abs.
Pearly white teeth.
Yummy lips.
And his err…
*giggles*
Trust me… one word
SUPERMAN.
No, seriously, I literally can’t feel my legs when we’re done.
And I can always tell he enjoyed it too.
He always eats up a storm after we are done?
…..
…..
Emmanuel.
Oh, he’s an aspiring… I mean… he’s a musician.
You should hear him sing.
His voice… ohhhhhh…
Just sad he hasn’t written anything new lately…
He got so heartbroken after his label cut him off
The deaf idiots.
How can anyone not hear the talent in his voice.
It kills me when I come back from work and meet him sleeping or playing that PS
I know deep down he wants to do so much.
I know I have to keep him happy.. support him anyway I can
Yes, financially sometimes…
I can’t let him go out with his friends and not be able to pay for drinks…
Or not be able to book studio sessions when he gets inspired to work.
And I keep him healthy too
I always make him the best meals
My special Afang… Efo riro… with cow leg… hehehe… he loves his brokoto…
And yam and eggs for breakfast…
Yes, before I leave for work.
I can’t let my superman go hungry.
I just can’t wait for the day we’ll get married
He’s going to sing at our wedding you know.
Endless Love.
Gosh, I think I’m going to cry…
Are we done? Can I go now?
I need to quickly do Manny’s laundry
He and friends will soon be back from the football viewing center
No… I can’t let him do it now. I can’t let him ruin his guitar fingers.
Let me even go and change into my Man U jersey
He already told me we won
Up United.
Bye.
* * *
Stop staring at the pink cushion.
*laughs*
Come on, it’s for Aisha, and you’re sitting on her spot
She curls up there whenever she wants to take in Kim K up close.
Oh no, she’s not home
She went out with friends last night
Err… obviously I didn’t go
The whole clubbing thing just isn’t my scene
I came home after I dropped her off at her friends place
Yeah, that’s where she is. I’ll be going to pick her soon.
I can’t obviously expect her friend to drop her, he has his own life to live
Yes, her friend is a he
I’m cool with it. They’ve been friends for a while now
….
Well, she’s a model. She also does a little bit of fashion designing
She’s not with any agency right now
The last one I made her join… total ripoff
Yisha isn’t really into structure… I think it’s a thing with creative people
I mean, she barely completed NYSC and all she wants to do is create
Her parents… well, her mom lives in Kaduna, her dad is late
Of course I’ve not met her mom, it’s not like we’re ready to get married
But we will… someday… soon.
I help out however I can for now but I know she’ll pay back someday
No, nothing major.. airtime… BIS.. mostly because we need to stay in touch
Well, I’ve helped her out with paying for her flight a couple of times too
She had to go see her mom.
These things aren’t exactly major as far as I’m concerned
No, it’s not like I have all the money in the world
but I love that woman and I know she loves me too
Of course, I tell her all the time
Yes, she says it too.
Oh, look at the time, I have to run.
Safe.
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Hey people, Toolsman here and what a week it has been so far. Who’d have thought my little joke of a post on Monday would lead to all that chaos online. Two trending topics and even TNC trended… only tells me one thing, y’all have a lot inside that needs to come out more often.
Anyways, it’s Wednesday and if you don’t know, it’s our Dialogue section where we put up a topic/question/statement for debate. Today’s dialogue as you read above might come across as clichéd/unrealistic/exaggerated but you’ll be surprised. I just have one question:
When do you cross the line from being supportive to becoming a maga/magette? Discuss.
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When you tell her she's doing great, and you're proud of her, you're supportive.
When you start paying for shit (BIS, lunch, all that..), you're a Maga.
-T
Hmm… but what if she's going through a rough patch.. lost her job.. blah blah..
LOL! Really? paying for lunch makes you a maga? smh
so paying for lunch makes u a maga? u ve a problem
Magette?!?!?!?! lol
Really Magette??? Never heard that before…
same here…
They both crossed the line. You can help Уσυя partner when neccessary but don't be a fool for love cos at the end of d day you would just be dumped for someone stronger
I enjoyed this so much -maga/magette is really common nowadays. The defining line of becoming either a maga/magette is very clear. When a relationship is not about mutual giving and taking; are you always the one giving? Does your mate ever take responsibility seriously? Do you find yourself fighting to keep a relationship going at all cost? Then it's likely you're a maga/magette!
Her friend is a he bawo???? Gockings!
I would not mind being a Mugu in so far as I am getting something in Return. Either, the sex is incredibly awesome, she is a good cook or I just enjoy her companionship…something gotta give…
Agreed!
Its good to help partners, buh there should be limits to everything. Situations like dis make the other partner to forget their own responsibilities. they keep resting on you all the time, do you see them as sumone u could rest on weneva ure down?
M/M
@ terdoh.. Paying for "shit" doesn't make u a maga.. In a relatnship, ders invariably a point where ud hv to support ur bf/gf in some way no matter how little. Buh when its entirely one sided n obv unreasonable.. Sorry oh! U don turn maga/maguette. Lol.
Its the mind state that matters anyway. Whoever refers to another person as maga cos you pay for your woman/man BIS, lunch and other basic shit is as shallow as a 2 year old's vagina. That was bull. Moving on. If you are financially upright, no maga there, you're just doing shit cos you can, if you aren't, gats set ground rules for your partner. Ees not by force.
Pedo….Must you mention that rubbish
Hi, am mayO. Am a maga
Well I dnt see a wrng in helping out d little way u can if d need be, besides its not abt d PDAs and sex na, its a relationship and a lot is involved, except ur jst plain stingy and foolish, cos if u say u love and care 4 him/ her nd u can't help out if u av d maens 2, walahi, som1 else wud do it.
Chic has gone so far past the line that the line is now a dot on the horizon to her. What the actual fuck? he wants to do so much with his life but he sits on his butt playing PS all day??
As far as I'm concerned, this thing is common sense. It's normal to be giving and supportive to your partner, whether that giving is time or money. However, when you're doing ridiculous things like paying for his nights out with mates and he ISN'T actively looking for a job or showing some kind of effort, come on now! The thirst for husband cannot be that great.
I dont mind doing my man's laundry, but if im at work all day, I wanna know that he cares too, a meal or even a foot rub or something.
If effort isn't coming from both sides, somebody is a maga.
I think the story is one-sided both times because the subjects did not say what exactly the other partner did for them. When I hear the other side I will be able to judge. And then people look down on acts of service as a love language. They prefer gifts or touch and so people who show love by doing things for the other person are looked down on. I mean, you may be with someone who shows love in another way apart from serving you. It's up to the person in the relationship to know if the love is reciprocal or Magaritic. Thanks for this post. Correct the typo before Mantis wakes up.
Ehen, Is it true that Margaret's tend to be magas in most relationships? Just asking for a friend.
i seriously doubt that…
replying 4 a friend. :P
I want a Maga for Val ohh
I'm tired of spending for myself
Emi o kin she omo baba olowo mo mehnnnn
Ok
Chai e don tey wey I yan for this joint sef. . .
Still the same tho. . .
Another relative conversation.
If you are a student on a show string budget yet you stay paying for his/her BIS, you're probably being taken advantage of.
If BIS is barely 0.001% of your income, it doesn't matter if he/she can afford BIS on their own, you keep paying because it makes you feel good.
Isn't it all about perspective?
My definition is a Mugu/Maga/Magette is simple —-> when your ego is being massaged or you are deliberately being lied to just so that the object of your affection/attention or sexual interest can receive favors (financial or otherwise).
And some people don't care if they are being lied to or if their ego is being stroked. That N3m you just collected might be change compared to how much money s/he made last week and it is a small price to pay for your attention/affection when it is needed.
……. my unsubsidised opinion.
Just right outta my mouth LH.
Someone else typing for LH now? He rarely commits these blunders.
In a relationship, giving and receiving should be mutual.. And paying for shit like Terdoh said doesnt make you a maga/maga-ette if its not all the time..
Its very simple really…relationships are all about give and take and even though there are points where one may have to support the other, there is a need to use one's brain…if you're doing all the giving and nothing is being given to you then you are being fooled…you can't be making excuses for someone's laziness and stupidity and say its love….essentially, you should try to support one another within limits….paying for your woman's lunch is not being a maga, flying her out to see her male 'friend' for the weekend is….helping ur bf through a rough time isn't being a maga, provided that it is temporary and the guy shows his eagerness to get out of that situation…basically, people need to THINK more…
One mans meat…I suppose its all about mutual agreement.
Supporting a partner is not an issue as long as you both agree to the terms of support and there is no deceit or unrealistic expectation involved. If it were simply by financial standards – all husbands whose wives are housewives would be considered magas.
In my opinion, the difference between being in a relationship and being a maga/magette is basically the same difference between a legal business transaction and a fraudlent one. Deceit
clicking on 'like'……on this comment here!
There is such a thing as freewill. If someone asks you to pay for lunch, their movie, their flight ticket as the case may be, you have every right to say No. If you do say yes, bear in mind that good deeds are almost never reciprocated. Its when you start expecting a reward for every good thing you did for the person you're dating, that stuff like maga/magette start to come into play. It is within your rights as a human being to be kind-hearted or selfish.
This makes a lot of sense! hereby 'liked' (y)
I had a conversation with a male friend of mine on Sunday. Apparently, he thought it wasnt a big deal for a guy to pay a girl's bill. I thought it was.
I was very uncomfortable with the idea of a man taking care of my bills as a norm rather than an exception. Dont get me wrong, gifts are cool (Ilove em) but it is not his responsibility to pay for my hair, phone bills, car bills etc. Apparently, he felt I was too Westernised.
My point here is that, a lot of guys go on about how some naija babes expect them to do everything but how can you blame them when some guys actually encourage it and when girls that are not into that are seen as overly independent or too Westernised. As for being magas and magettes (my new fave word btw), there is always a market for that. Some grow out of it and others r stuck in that bubble
Hmmn,magette? Dats new. There's a limit to everything, there's an exception to most things they say. Mutualism all the way plsss…
The girl described in the post above is a dunce. I really don't get women.
There's no line crossed. Usually magas or maggie whatever know they are magas/maggies. They know when they are being used and in most cases, they don't seem to mind. A maga or maggie is someone who is deficient in some area of his/her life and tries to compensate for this deficiency by doing 'stupid' (as people would like to think) things, eg: buying stuff for his/her partner, etc. So in reality, no one is a victim. Everyone's happy. There are actually happy magas.
I believe 'kids' who still receive monthly allowance from their folks would see paying for BIS, etc for someone as being a maga. How much is BIS? N1500? You would complain over N1500? You are cheap. Anyway, It is understandable. It isn't your money. It belongs to your folks.
What I don't get however, is why a jobless man or woman would be in a relationship in the first place. These ones should be ostracised.
Bottomline: Treat your woman or man right. What you do for your partner is nobody's business.
*Magette Mantis, Magette.
:p
Maga et magaettes!!! Tula just killed this one!!! Kudos, funny enuf last week I was having a conversaton with myself on where to draw the line…..does she appreciate the things I do or does she expect them??? The truth is if you are appreciated you will definitely get something inreturn I.e. ( Food/sex/gift/ surprises/support) but if its the other way round all you get is bills and more bills. But as they say "if you don't mind it don't matter" . Funny enuf most guys/ gals are ok with the whole situation……for me I give without expectations, so a simple thank you goes a long way. *drops mic….sips chilled zobo*
You become a magette (serzly, warris dat) when;
1. You live home around 5am but u MUST prepare breakfas 4 him (d douche is still farting and droolin in his sleep)
2. He doesnt have a steady job bt he expects u to pick the tab after him
3. He can be immature when things dont go his way reminding you that he can find more 'accomodating' females
you are a maga when;
1. She only calls to say 'hey darl, i need to renew my BIS). The rest of the time, its flashing galore
2. She insists on expensive places for lunch irrespective of ur budget
3. She only screws when its close to valentine'd day/her bday…d rest of the time she just lays dere murmurin d occassional 'oh! Yes..yes…u nt finished yet'
*sighs* if u bear d above title, a lil whippin is all u need.
EOD
Is it true that Margaret’s tend to be magas in most relationships? Just asking for a friend.