Take Not To Mama: 3 Types Of Men Not To Date (pt. 1)
After a couple of personal experiences and experiences of my friends I have come to the realization that there are certain kinds of men that need to be eliminated from the face of the earth thus they should be tagged as undateable to any woman in the world. These men all fall into 3 categories, which are: The Neanderthals, Sigmunds and the Quilts.
Neanderthals:
No I am not talking about the specie that became extinct about 350,000 years ago, I am talking about the ones that live in this present day acting like they are the strongest men on the face of the planet. Characteristics of these men are:
Lack of emotion: they find it hard to tell you that they care for you even if they do, they believe just dating you is enough emotion they can give to you. The act of respecting and caring for a woman is nowhere in their agenda because it is seen as a sign of weakness amongst their fellow Neanderthals.
Lack of Trust: they almost never trust you, they believe every boy/man you talk to is your other man and thus they make you cut off all your male friends and maybe some female ones too because you want to please them.
Dictators: they never want to hear your opinion, whatever you say or suggest is crap to them. They believe that they are the best and no other person can correct them.
Don’t ever expect them to apologize because it is a sign of weakness and they can never be weak.
Sigmunds:
These are the philosophers, the ones that mess up with your head before you realize what’s going on, they are generally the nice guys that play girls but they are almost never caught because they are that good. Their characteristics are:
Date to please: they usually claim to like whatever you like and they act like they understand you better than anyone else. The truth is they know what you are thinking before you do and probably have sisters or read female magazines so they know how to get to the soft spot of the prey (women).
Self Pity: Unfortunately, not all of them are that good looking in one way or the other, so they make you feel like you are the best that came their way (which may be true) and all they want is for you to feel bad for them constantly. Every time you threaten to breakup with them, they soon relate it to their looks or financial inability or whatever their shortcomings are.
Provider: They want to act as your provider, what they do is that they find where you are lacking or whatever it is that makes you incomplete and they provide for you in that way. Examples include giving you money if you lack financially, love if you lack love, understanding if you think no one understands you, support if you think you lack support, self esteem if you think you are not good enough, and so much more.
Past Mistakes: they are the first to bring up stories about their past and sometimes have mean things to say about their ex’s. Notice how in all their stories, they are the victims, it’s all a facade so you can pity them even more.
Quilts:
Now these are the perfect example of “good from far but far from good” also known as rejects. They are a rare combination of both the Neanderthals and the Sigmunds. Think of a quilt literally, it’s stuff left over from clothes and dresses, they are too small to be used so in other words they are practically useless. In addition to the characteristics of the Neanderthals and the Sigmunds they have one more special characteristic and that is:
Nothing to offer: in most cases, they have nothing to offer, not money, security, intelligence. They usually look good on the outside but inside, they are absolutely empty.
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So there you have it. That’s my list and I’m sure a lot of women here can relate. In conclusion, I’d like to say, no man is perfect but the key is finding the right man for you. Define who you are first then you’ll know who you are compatible with. It’s time to hear from you, do you agree with my list? Think I’ve missed out anything, please use the comment box to speak your mind. As for the guys, you can also identify which category you fall under and maybe try to defend your brethren.
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*sigh* the things these woman do in their heads. Seeing as I couldn't identify with any group, I'll say that's a good thing. But I have a feeling there are way too many other categories…let's wait and see what the other women will come up with
So am stuck wiv a quilt ???!!!! I v bn tryn 2 cut it off but nicca always pulling the standard " he'll b useless wivout me, he'll commit sucide blablabla … :(
Oh wow. So its real? Suicide? o_o
*sigh*™
hmm….. there's just something……rushed (?) about this post…. valid points but the communication….
Sorry guys but this is a terrible article! Not a fan of this one at all, it reads like something borrowed, the adaptation is quite mediocre in my opinion.
Shame I have dealt with the 3 types in the past. Thanks for this!
Hmmm. The second group – the sigmunds – doesnt look too bad at all sha sha. who doesnt want a man that will listen to them and provide for them?
In fact, if you remove the self-pity part aspect (and past mistakes) they sound perfect na. At least better than most of the rubbish men out there
LOL.
Was just about to make this same comment, just thought to read through previous comments before dropping mine.
Valid points, but I believe there much more points not discussed here…
An unrealistic post where the writer contradicts herself by saying 'no man is perfect'. I wonder if this post is meant to be a roadmap into discovering one's self, what one likes, etc. If that is the case, then this is similar to taking medication from a quack.
For those who will say they've dealt with men the writer has short-sightedly listed above, all this post does is to put a name tag on her different kind of men. This post won't stop a female from dating the next moron she sees. Why? Some things are inexplicable. There are several dynamics at work when it comes to relationships; different personalities, habits, etc, and this lousy post fails to factor these in. The heart wants what it wants – good or bad. In most cases, it isn't only the man (Neanderthal, Sigmund, bla bla bla) who has a problem. The lady too has probably got daddy issues, etc. How else do you explain a girl leaving a good guy for a bad guy or a girl staying in an abusive relationship? Some women enjoy chaos and can only function in it. It's twisted but it is what it is.
Bottomline: You read BS like this and you'll end up single/frustrated and you'll become someone else's prayer point. No man wants a woman who categorises men into personalities, species or cloth. The only sense the writer makes is where she says 'Define who you are'. Every other thing, bleh.
I would have to agree with Preying Mantis on this one this post is baseless, u can't meet someone and start assessing if he's a sigmund, quilt and what not, life's too short for that crap! Like preying mantis said, the heart wants what it wants and if u ask me the sigmunds are the best any woman can ask from a guy! So far he understands you and complements you where you are lacking doesn't cheat on you wat else do you want. In summary y'all ladies don't know wat u want guys have it sorted tho! We want BOOBIES. Peace.
Was just about to drop a strongly worded comment as well, but now i have seen yours, i guess i should mellow a little. A poor piece i must say. The writer is very shortsighted.
Hmmm…. I sense venom. Who hurt u? *hugs*
OMG!!! I'm dating a Sigmund!!! :o
You should be happy, you're dating a great guy!!!
This write-up has such a catchy title, but after reading it, i feel so pissed that i did not spend the time trying to meet up with my work deadline which is about expiring.
Well, personally i will advice ladies not to date the neanderthals.
But the Sigmunds, Oh Please!!! You don't find such men anywhere. I wonder who disses a guy that looks for a need you have and seeks to satisfy it? This is just strange!!! Cut out the self pity part and ladies you have a perfect gentleman.
AS for bringing up the past, if you really are in a relationship, you both are gonna discuss your exes and their flaws. So spare me the bull crap.
You obviously ran out of ideas when you got to the quilts so "i comment my reserve" on that one.
By the way, you failed to mention the wife bashers, the stray dogs (cheaters), the gold diggers… Haba, the list goes on and on. You need to re-write this piece and put it up again.
N.B: @Toolsman: I hope you're preparing a response for the guys. The ladies cant have the last word here.
Adios!!!
Haba, Aubty Sheila, in no way have you mentioned that you (& your girlfriends) tried to deal with any of the issues, provided solutions, Counselled, 'Stood up', Questioned, Talked.
Rather a conclusion was made that he should be ELIMINATED from the face of the earth . . . tagged as UNDATEABLE to any woman . . . despite any other favourable inherent qualities he myt have had.
Providing solutions myt have made the post turn out different, 'Bandwagonizing' almost always comes out bleh.
Still gat love 4 you though. #2cents
Really…..Really….. Women are always guilty of putting labels on guys and putting them in boxes…good luck finding one guy with these features
@ bizkit well said maen…this reminds me of lord of the rings or chronicles of narnia of sum stuff like dat..cos its a bit abstract @meyer lansky u got a point… nice choice of name by the way. @sheila dis is creative but lacks certain aspects that would better help us connect with the e.g personal examples or human paradigms…den refer to bizkit's comment…looking 4wod 2 reading u more..ciao
Is this article taken from the perspective of a "near-perfect" woman? Because the "Sigmunds" sound near perfect, and even the self-pity is quite understandable if he comes across women who want to "wipe him from the face of the earth", while he's trying to support and understand and complement his partner. A man can only take so much. I get the general direction of the post, in all categories, but either it wasn't worded very well, or was just a lazy piece of writing. Then again, generalizations usually are.