Published on September 5th, 2012 | by Sheila196
What’s Your Number?
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The truth is out, Naija babes have decided to validate the Durex survey that claims they are the most unfaithful women in the world. While most people might be surprised after watching the Battabox video, some people like me don’t understand what the noise is all about.
Believe it or not, the Nigerian dating scene does not support fidelity. Yes I said it! Any single young woman who is madly in love with one guy that isn’t her husband is considered stupid by friends and even family. (Ok, ok, I’m generalizing). It’s popularly known as ‘putting all your eggs in one basket’ and from history, it’s wiser to spread your eggs arounds.
If men can be players having more than one girlfriend at a time, why can’t we ladies do it too? I’m pretty sure someone reading this is already preparing a double standard type of argument (the holier-than-thou’s and the ‘good’ girls) but before you start let me explain how it works.
At some time in a woman’s life, she will have at least two ‘toasters’ or as many as five (if she’s that good). During that time, she’ll perform an extensive analysis by highlighting the pros and cons of each man before deciding to commit. On the otherhand, she is also aware that men have egos to be stroked (no pun intended), so she gives each one the impression that he is the only man in her life while looking for ways to get rid of him. This helps to keep their egos in check. While some of them would consider themselves players, they won’t know they are the ones being played by their ‘prey’.
At the end of this process, she picks the one she’ll marry and commits to him (or tries to) ’for marriage’. Which means as long as she is single and not sleeping with all the men, they are all her ‘boyfriends’ fulfilling different purposes. In financial terms, they are simply hedging against risks and only want the maximum return on investments. In this case, that would be their time, emotions, happiness etc.
Because this is TNC and we encourage expression, I’ve decided to put this up for discussion today. Start by giving us a NUMBER. Then tell us your views on cheating. Do you support having multiple partners a.k.a not having all your eggs in one basket? If this is the case and if most of us agree with this, then do you wonder why so many people break down when they get dismissed from a relationship? Shouldn’t it be just as easy as moving on to one of the many backup plans?
Please allow me to add a note. I’m sure we all felt the ‘real-ness’ of the comments in that video. I’d really like for us to keep all the face-saving comments to ourselves today. This is TNC, if you’re scared your boyfriend/girlfriend will fire you because of your comments, please go ahead and comment anonymously. You know the drill, use the comment box and express you.
Disclaimer: this process does not apply to all men/women, some just can’t pull it off.
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