Published on May 7th, 2012 | by thetoolsman27
Rules! Rules! Rules!
Too many things happened over the weekend and I really couldn’t pick just one of them to talk about. From the launch of the BigBrother stargame to the demise of the MBGN and internationally, singer Tank’s response to Brian McKnight’s recent ‘post-mid-life-crisis’, how could I possibly pick one to wrap this morning’s post around?
Now that you have my excuse, I’ll dive into today’s post. You know how the thing about rules is just that they’re meant to be broken? From the beginning of days there’s always been that fascination to rebel and just become the exception, the rule breaker – well, at least for some of us. Now, over the weekend, I was thinking to myself how most of the rules we get intrigued about breaking are the ones made by other people.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we don’t like breaking our own rules but when you develop a rule, a guiding principle or whatever you want to call it, that is based on a down-right nasty experience from your past, it’s almost always impossible for you to break those rules – again, this is a generalization. Let us take relationships and general dealings with the opposite sex for example, I learnt some lessons veeeeery early on that helped me develop certain ‘guiding principles’ that up till recently, I didn’t realize just how valuable they’ve been. Some of these principles may sound silly but I’m going to share a couple of them and hopefully you’ll all be able to chip in and then take it from there:
Thou shalt not do the area runs
Most people laugh this off; yes, like you probably just did. But if you pause for a second and give this some serious thought, you might see the wisdom in the statement – especially for the guys reading. Who qualifies as ‘area runs’? Anyone who lives within 3 kilometers of your house, anyone who can get angry, up and leave your crib and conveniently walk back to their house. Also, best friends or really close friends of your siblings fall into this category along with exes of your really close friends too.
If you’re scratching your head wondering – then who’s left? You need to reexamine your ‘game’ and then do something about it. There are men and women outside this circle. Yes, they may bring just as much drama but trust me, you don’t want a mad, brokenhearted and angry chic capable of doing things you can’t imagine, living that close to you.
The walk is only shameful if ‘it’ wasn’t good
Walk of Shame? What’s that? And by this, I don’t mean ‘drive of shame’ is a better term. If there was a ‘oh, look at me, I just had sex’ look, maybe I’d think differently about this one. Ok, the point here is, as an adult, we should be responsible enough to process our decisions and take responsibility for them. You knew you were going to say ‘Yes’ if he asks you to come home with him; you knew it was a booty call; you knew about his girlfriend; you knew you’d have to leave early the next morning so instead of fussing about it, why not make it count? People cheat every second of everyday and I’m not about to go into the why or the how and like I said earlier, some of these ‘principles’ may sound silly, but I really see no need for you to go through the stress of cheating if it’s not going to be worth your while.
When I mentioned ‘rules’, I’m sure some of you thought I as going to mention stuff like:
- The 90 days sex rule
- The no kissing on the first date rule
- The learning how good he is sexually by how he handles the steering wheel rule.
If you don’t know, those are actual rules/principles I’ve heard from actual women and as crazy as some of them may sound, who knows, maybe it works for them and I’m not about to knock anyone’s hustle. All I’m asking us to do today is to share some of these rules/principles. Let’s examine them together based on experiences to see if indeed they are justifiable. Maybe you can even share a story that’ll further help convince us. So, over to you, use the comment box to speak your mind. Cheers.
PS: If you’re wondering what Brian McKnight has been up to, check the two videos below: