Sex Don’t Live Here Anymore……
Hello everyone, it has been a very interesting week for us all here in Nigeria, hope y’all used your time at home productively. I have posted 3 conversations below. Use the comments box and share your opinions/advice.
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My boyfriend has lost is interest in sex.. We used to have sex at least twice a week but now I’m lucky if he will give it to me once a month.. I thought he was cheating so I checked his BB and nothing. I always know where is and can account for the time when he is not with me. He hardly talks to me these days, he doesn’t even touch me or act like my boyfriend in public. I have tried to talk to him but he always has some excuse, or he gets upset and angry with me and shuts down. I am tire of begging and crying! Should I just break it off and moved on with my life or what should I do? How do I get Him to understand I need affection and sex in my relationship? Tried dressing sexy.. I’ve tried talking.. I’ve tried begging.. I have even tried porn… I’m not fat, I’m not dirty, I just don’t understand. As a matter of fact I get a lot of guys trying to toast me almost everyday. Yet I get nothing from am madly in love with.. – Tired girl
Hello tired girl,
Stop wasting your time, simply break up with him.
-Efe
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Hello!
There is this guy that I met a few weeks ago and we just started talking and flirting with each other. Lately our BB chats have become sexual and I just want to know what people think his intentions are, I mean I know he thinks I’m attractive and of course I think he’s hawtt as well. But what does it mean when guys ask for nude pictures? Does it mean that he just wants sex, or that they are just visual creatures by nature? Lol
- Naked gurl
Hello Naked gurl,
When a guy starts this, he is only after sex… Unless you intentionally want to, don’t get caught up in all this flirty talk and sending nude pictures back and forth. Guys like this have no respect for women, also the girls that let them get away with it and get involved in this are giving women a bad name in my opinion.
Naturally, it is fun and erotic to do this but definitely not with a guy you don’t have a serious relationship with.
- Efe
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Hi Efe,
Theres this girl i recently started talking to. We are both in babcock. Anyways we are on break right now and we have been BBing back and forth constantly. Last weekend my friend and I met up with her and a few of her friends to hang out. We hung out and it was going great. She was laughing at my jokes and her friends seemed to love me. At the end of the night she wanted to make plans for next week and I didn’t want to sound too available so I told her I’d let her know. All my friends are telling me to wait for her to BB me and not contact her 1st under any circumstances. Should I listen to them? If i dont contact her will she think that I no longer have interest/ didn’t enjoy our time out? and more importantly what does it mean if she doesn’t contact me at all?
- Bboy
Hello Bboy
The whole “Don’t seem too available” thing is in my opinion one of the worst ideas ever. She told you that she wanted to do this again.
She is interested. If you wait for too long, she is going to move on because you immediately told her that you would consider it and that right there most likely made her feel as if the first date didn’t go well
Make her feel more secure and contact her and let her know that you would like to meet some time soon. Playing mind games is what immature people do
-Efe
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As always, any email sent to saturdayconvos@thenakedconvos.com asking questions or sharing a secret will be treated discretely and only published as anonymous.
About the Author
Efe_Ogaren I am in my late twenties and happily married with an academic background in Economics, Psychology & Finance. My professional experience is in Management Consulting & I enjoy being outdoors, volunteering and observing social interactions between people.
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Hello Tired girl….
Just take a walk….his actions already proves he's tired oof the whole ish….so save yourself the trouble andd trauma and leave.
Dear Efe,
YO !!!! NIGGUHHH!!!
Why yo gotta be cockblocking niggas n shiiii?
I mean, come on Nigguh, I respeck yo hustle and game on this here site ya kno, giving lil bitches and faggets advice and shit but what d fucking hell kinda answer you giving to ma bitch 'Naked gurl'?
The nigga done be chatting this with bitch n now he wanna see some nudies and shit. Aint no shame in the naked game. Hell, bitch, if yo wanna send nudies, send nudies. Set that P and get to fucking. All this talk about "no respect for women" n "giving women a bad name" is some fucked up, trippy homosexual virgin neo-puritanical propaganda yo. Fuck all that shit. Send the nudies and then bitch do yo best to get laid and that pussy paid. Embrace yo inner ho.
In Summary:
1. Efe, nigga, stop cockblocking
2. Bitch, send the nudies.
3. Set that P, git yo vitamin D
4. Get paid.
Riley Out.
Tired girl I feel ur pain,I believe he doesn't love u anymore.Jus try nd move on,its hard I knw…but u cnt force urself on any1.som1 out dere deserves u @Naked girl,d guy just wanna straf u nd dts nt decent atall,relationship dnt work dt way..get a clue.@B_boy,stop play hard 2 get.its nt necessary @all
@Tired Gal-Efe's advise was perfect,truthful and straight to d point. Ur guy has lost interest in d relationship.
@Naked Gal-ur convos r just flirty convos right? If yes;it is just abt sex.
@Bboy-u and ur friends r very immature and d gal sounds mature. I rily wish I cld tell her to stay away from u.
Well said
Efe is in business because common sense stopped being common a long-time ago.
The world is filled with pathetic women, it's tragic.
To the toddler from Babcock, what sort of fuckery is this? "All my friends are telling me to wait for her to BB me and not contact her 1st under any circumstances". Never had a chick interested in you before? First time out? All your friends including people from your village are aware you went out with a girl. When you guys wanna have sex, I'll be sure to tune in to NTA cos it'll be there. Grow some balls and get your shit together. Lose the antenna attitude.
@TiredGirl – you are welcome to a long boring faithful married life, where u are eventually tired on everything
@NakedGirl- its the 21st century dare to live, if Ũ aren't attached
@Bboy- if Ũ have feeling for her stop waiting time and fronting, if you don't then just set your P
I don't like the common scenario of "BBing" in the stories, People Should learn to appreciate seing others FACE to FACE, a lot can be learned from it, BBing all d time does not make your soulmates in anyway, Avoid carpel tunnel syndrome, pick a place to meet up and let your Lips do the talking and other activities ;)
Naked gurl + Akpako(es) = Tired girl
Bboy. . . es em aytch
@Lagoshunter: So true…. COMMON SENSE. All these stories#yawns#
Tired girl. WTF!!
What do you need to tell you you're being taken for a ride?
You boy's a smooth operator and is having his groove on with someone else.
Look it's only a matter of time before he throws the bombshell.So be smart..WALK..
D dude in Babcock- ur relationship life is supposed to be private. Except if u're facing issues then u can tell ur friends( d sensible ones) + u don't have to give them details. Your friends and perhaps u watch too many movies- times have changed..
RILEY'S BAAAAAAAAACK!!!
LOL @ Riley.
Love Efe's answer to d first letter. No other words necessary.
I totally disagree with most of ya opinions concerning tired girl. Her bf may not be the sharing type i.e. Things may not be going well for him thus his withdrawal (n u confirmed he's nt cheating so, there u go).
Yoi didnt sign up to be his gf for great sex and d good life. No, its nt marriage but as long as u're with him, its 4 beta or worst.
You are going to be gentle with him. Ignore the hurt and be dere 4 him. Do the things that he loves and urge him to confide in you. It may take time bt i get d vibe that ur guy is decent so trust me he wud eventually tell u d prob (if dere's one). If he eventually confides in u, u cn be sure he wud neva 4gt u in a hurry
p.s d above advice is only valid if he is still interested in you n d relationship so fig dat out first b4 u become a slave to a douche.