Published on February 6th, 2012 | by thetoolsman32
Skinny Line Between Thick And Precious
Hey people, Toolsman here. Exciting weekend for me, hope y’all had fun. So much happening today, we have the first posts from The Writer finalists going up at noon and then at 4pm, the official launch of S.U.G.A.R. Whoosh. I can’t wait. Now on to today’s rush…
Disclaimer: This is not a lame attempt at casting aspersions on fat/overweight people.
I think one of the major things that can help a person build their self-confidence is knowing who you are and accepting yourself. You might wonder what exactly this has to do with being fat, skinny or thick. Well, I’d like you humour me and just go along with me for a few minutes. Lately, I’ve been part of conversations or listened in on discussions where women described themselves as “thick” or referred to other women as being “thick” and as exposed as I am, I must confess that I’ve always wondered about that term “thick”.
I just couldn’t get over my curiosity just and so, I decided to ask some of my female friends what exactly they think it means for a woman to be described as “thick” and this was where I first realized there was an issue.
I discovered, like several other ‘slangs’, there is no common definition for the term “thick”. The term got popularized sometime in the early 90’s through lyrics from popular hiphop artists and the general African-American community. Some of the general definitions then were:
Nice ass, nice legs, not skinny, with meat on your bones.
A woman with a perfect body, filled-in in places that are, by nature, designed to attract the opposite sex, such as the thighs, the hips, the breasts, and the most lovely part of all, the booty
Girl who isn’t fat or skinny, but is well proportioned, has enough meat on her bones in all the right places, most men like the thick ones.
Somewhere along the line, during the late 90’s and early 2000, the term crossed a line. Obesity was on the rise and fast becoming a thing of concern for all. People (women especially) became very touchy about their weight and since the ‘English Language’ did not exactly provide several alternatives for the word ‘fat’, people had to improvise.
Plum, chubby and big-boned were okay but “thick” was brilliant. It was the perfect way to describe a plus-sized woman without sounding insensitive. In fact, it made the women feel good about themselves; I’m sure most of us are familiar with the term “Thick Madam” as popularized by the movie “Phat Girls”
Monique, the lead actress in the movie later went on to start a clothing line called Thick Madam (or is it Madame?) .
Fast forward to 2012. Obesity is still on the rise, cosmetic surgeries are cheaper and neo-liberalism is the order of the day even among the erstwhile ‘backward’ Africans. Once again, the common definition of that term “thick” seems to have changed.
When a girl’s body has weight on it, but not ugly, out-of-shape- weight.
Word used to describe a girl who is big, but not fat, and has a very nice shape.
Not Fat, Not Skinny, But you got meat on your bones
Notice anything different? Some things definitely stood out: Shape; Not fat. The three definitions you read above are from the Urban Dictionary – all sent in by men.
I asked a male friend of mine to define the term “thick” and he put things into perspective:
“Thick is meat on bones …but it’s firm meat. Fat wobbles, thick doesn’t”
That was pretty close to my understanding of the term as well but chaos ensued when I asked some of my female friends what they think the term means and who they think can be described as “thick”. I got answers ranging from Beyoncé to Jill Scott.
Remember how I started? About self-confidence derived by knowing who you are? I recently met a young woman who is convinced she is the perfect definition of “thick”. I guess I’m also guilty of encouraging her because I just used to let it slide. The very religious ones among us might say it’s probably not a bad thing if someone declares they are not what they appear to be – a show of faith? Maybe that’s true but when it starts to cloud your judgment/thinking, I think it should be checked.
The chic in question is definitely endowed. Well above double D’s and also has a sizeable behind but that’s not all. Her mid region is also quite sizeable and like my friend said in his definition: her meat wobbles. Of course you’ll probably only notice this on close examination. As a result, most people see her in clothes and just go: DAMN! She’s packing.
Maybe this is where I fault us men too. We have clearly put it out there that a lot of us are attracted to “thick” women and as much as I understand that we are all different people with different tastes, I believe we can all agree on one definition.
My friend’s definition does it for me and contrary to what most might think, except you’re in South Africa, I really don’t think there are a lot of “thick women” out there. Most are actually borderline fat (based on that definition). When I think ‘thick’, two women come to mind:
Today I’d like to hear from you. What’s your definition of “thick”? Please let’s try to be as descriptive as possible. Cheers.