Skinny Line Between Thick And Precious
Hey people, Toolsman here. Exciting weekend for me, hope y’all had fun. So much happening today, we have the first posts from The Writer finalists going up at noon and then at 4pm, the official launch of S.U.G.A.R. Whoosh. I can’t wait. Now on to today’s rush…
Disclaimer: This is not a lame attempt at casting aspersions on fat/overweight people.
I think one of the major things that can help a person build their self-confidence is knowing who you are and accepting yourself. You might wonder what exactly this has to do with being fat, skinny or thick. Well, I’d like you humour me and just go along with me for a few minutes. Lately, I’ve been part of conversations or listened in on discussions where women described themselves as “thick” or referred to other women as being “thick” and as exposed as I am, I must confess that I’ve always wondered about that term “thick”.
I just couldn’t get over my curiosity just and so, I decided to ask some of my female friends what exactly they think it means for a woman to be described as “thick” and this was where I first realized there was an issue.
I discovered, like several other ‘slangs’, there is no common definition for the term “thick”. The term got popularized sometime in the early 90’s through lyrics from popular hiphop artists and the general African-American community. Some of the general definitions then were:
Nice ass, nice legs, not skinny, with meat on your bones.
A woman with a perfect body, filled-in in places that are, by nature, designed to attract the opposite sex, such as the thighs, the hips, the breasts, and the most lovely part of all, the booty
Girl who isn’t fat or skinny, but is well proportioned, has enough meat on her bones in all the right places, most men like the thick ones.
Somewhere along the line, during the late 90’s and early 2000, the term crossed a line. Obesity was on the rise and fast becoming a thing of concern for all. People (women especially) became very touchy about their weight and since the ‘English Language’ did not exactly provide several alternatives for the word ‘fat’, people had to improvise.
Plum, chubby and big-boned were okay but “thick” was brilliant. It was the perfect way to describe a plus-sized woman without sounding insensitive. In fact, it made the women feel good about themselves; I’m sure most of us are familiar with the term “Thick Madam” as popularized by the movie “Phat Girls”
Monique, the lead actress in the movie later went on to start a clothing line called Thick Madam (or is it Madame?) .
Fast forward to 2012. Obesity is still on the rise, cosmetic surgeries are cheaper and neo-liberalism is the order of the day even among the erstwhile ‘backward’ Africans. Once again, the common definition of that term “thick” seems to have changed.
When a girl’s body has weight on it, but not ugly, out-of-shape- weight.
Word used to describe a girl who is big, but not fat, and has a very nice shape.
Not Fat, Not Skinny, But you got meat on your bones
Notice anything different? Some things definitely stood out: Shape; Not fat. The three definitions you read above are from the Urban Dictionary – all sent in by men.
I asked a male friend of mine to define the term “thick” and he put things into perspective:
“Thick is meat on bones …but it’s firm meat. Fat wobbles, thick doesn’t”
That was pretty close to my understanding of the term as well but chaos ensued when I asked some of my female friends what they think the term means and who they think can be described as “thick”. I got answers ranging from Beyoncé to Jill Scott.
Remember how I started? About self-confidence derived by knowing who you are? I recently met a young woman who is convinced she is the perfect definition of “thick”. I guess I’m also guilty of encouraging her because I just used to let it slide. The very religious ones among us might say it’s probably not a bad thing if someone declares they are not what they appear to be – a show of faith? Maybe that’s true but when it starts to cloud your judgment/thinking, I think it should be checked.
The chic in question is definitely endowed. Well above double D’s and also has a sizeable behind but that’s not all. Her mid region is also quite sizeable and like my friend said in his definition: her meat wobbles. Of course you’ll probably only notice this on close examination. As a result, most people see her in clothes and just go: DAMN! She’s packing.
Maybe this is where I fault us men too. We have clearly put it out there that a lot of us are attracted to “thick” women and as much as I understand that we are all different people with different tastes, I believe we can all agree on one definition.
My friend’s definition does it for me and contrary to what most might think, except you’re in South Africa, I really don’t think there are a lot of “thick women” out there. Most are actually borderline fat (based on that definition). When I think ‘thick’, two women come to mind:
Today I’d like to hear from you. What’s your definition of “thick”? Please let’s try to be as descriptive as possible. Cheers.
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@toolsman is definitely an @§§ guy & he likes Thick too…good choice mate
true that d dictionary didn't give much options to d word FAT :-|
it's a very slim line btw d word Fat & Thick thesedays cos d fat ones b basking under d umbrella of the thick :-(
Ass guy sha.. not sure about this one…
Fat or thick….all na d same thing abeg
As long as u r nt lepa
Emmm so wat's ur point?
Hmmm….a very touchy issue cos most fat gals dey form thick nw …hweva,I reli do feel dat thick is different frm fat sha
Monique was FAT, now she's thick.
I honestly don't care what a persons weight is….
Just don't be shapeless. I feel bad for shapeless girls or girls whose bodies are not proportional. Hey, that's why body magic and body pads were invented! *skips away*
In my world, Thick describing an anatomy, doesn't exist. You're either Underweight, Normal, overweight or obese.
'Thick' is an excuse some babes are using to boost their self-esteem. Don't be obese and be calling yourself thick. Not healthy at all.
That is fat stored in ur buttocks, breasts, stomach…or like me, face.
I see 'Thick' as muscled and fit…the Serena Williams kind.
I would say Amber's got a nice figure but Thick, she isn't.
This is MY opinion.
Amber Rose is thick, Serena is thick, so is Nicki Minaj, even Rihanna is thick to an extent. Monique is fat and so is Gabby Sidibe (Precious). If ur "thickness" means your tummy is not flat/ you can't wear a bikini without things falling all over the place, you are fat, end of story. A lot of men like fat girls anyways, but let's call a spade a spade.
Rihanna thick bawo?????
fat is fat …….with or without clothes
thick is fat …….that looks attractive with clothes on
neither is bad by itself…….. only when its combined with low or no self esteem …..
Monique is fat girl; chck out her love handles& square shaped ass!
Beyonce is a thick girl; luk @ d size of dse tighs! Gosh u cnt help bt notice bt her body is stil packn a good shape.
Precious is an obese girl; I will leave d rest 2ur imaginatn
When I think ‘thick’, two women come to mind: Amber Rose, Serena? Toolz nko?
Fat people are shapeless. Thick people aren't necessarily so.
Definition of "thick" before it became bastardized is "dumb"; hard at understanding!
Now lets be realistic here meat or fat, wiggle or no jiggle the reality is health rules. How can a woman be packing up on size 18+ and think she's sexy or "thick"? Slurping up on fattening stuff and packing a pouch like a baby hippo telling the world you'll start dieting tomorrow doesn't make you thick and sexy its being able to stay healthy and keep your BMI in check that does.
I'm partial yea I wouldn't bat an eyelid at you if you're packing a beer guy, if you realize most men wont either you should do something about it.
Yea Serena is thick (and sexy and can fit into a bikini without looking like shes about to tear out of it the the incredible hulk), if you can pull it off and not gross people out then you're a proper size.
Note to the skinny as a rake girls too; looking like some Rwanda refugee wont help your cause either. Im not saying all men are great but women you have a lot more to work hard for…the guy just needs to be rich and some poor damsel will see beyond his Shabba Ranks looking mug and claim its "love"…He can even afford to be fat like "Moto Moto" in Madagascar 2! Although guys seriously you all seem to think a beer belly covering your frontal is ideal… wait till you're told to get off while hoping to get "on"!
Thick for fat – All na packaging. Although there are women who are too 'thick' to be classified as thick. It gets to a point where its so obvious saying she's thick is a lie. Fat na fat. Amber Rose is definitely GOOD thick!
Are u subbing me? :|
I agree with wierd_oo on this one. There's no such thing as 'thick'. You're either underweight, normal, fat, overweight or obese. I'm what people will refer to as 'orobo'. My parents were so worried they took me to a doctor. Doctor said I'm not fat and I just need to keep fit. Weight is a touchy issue and most people refuse to deal with their weight issues. Even skinny people get defensive when you call them skinny or thin. When you call someone who is obviously fat, fat, you are just stating the obvious. Many people don't want to come to terms with their weight issues that's why we have anorexic and obese people. You just have to strike a balance in your life and like the post says, self confidence regardless of your weight is key. You have to accept that your weight is wrong and find solutions to your problem(s). We shouldn't delude ourselves when it comes to our weight because our weight affects our health
Totally agree with Wierd oo!!! In my secondary school days thick meant muscular tho.
Just wanted to clear something up. When you said 'well above double D's' in reference to a thick girl's boobs, just wanted to say, I am an E cup who looks like a C. Guys refer to double D's when tryn to say a girl has got jugs, I bet those girls do not know their proper bra size, cos a DD isn't huge except on a size 6-8 maybe. I am a size 10 and an E cup, and guys when asked to guess my size think I'm a C that's because I use my right bra size so I I hold it properly. :)
your examples of thick is my example of an amazon. Thick for me is Megan Good, petite but right proportion of her womanly charms.
re the boobies – even I can't believe i'm a D…& i've never actually considered it from that perspective so thanks for that!
Nothing wrong with being thick, fat or slim. The most important thing is being happy with what you have and be in good health. Sure, people thrown the work 'thick' loosely when self-esteem is in the picture but whatever rocks your chair….
I like them all.
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Toolz is fat! That babe is not less than a size 16. She's probably a size 18 or 20. I don't know why anyone would call that thick. I can't imagine how she'd look without a girdle or body magic.
Monique on the other hand, looks so good now. Watch an episode of the Parkers and compare how she looked to how she looks on the Monique show…if you don't get what I mean.
Thick is Beyonce, Amber Rose and maybe the new Jennifer Hudson.
Just saying… :D
I want my bank account to look like Toolz….Fat and shape****
Thick definately is having that tight bit of flesh in the right places. Fat is when that bit of flesh is all jiggly.
My grouse with the ladies (the skinny ones aren't left out) is the big tummies they seem to go around with. Our mums never had big tummies back in the day. You'll see a "babe" looking like a 6-months pregnant woman.
Thick = packing in the right placing AND firm.
Thick shldnt exceed size 14, some people can get away with being thick @ size 16.
I wouldn't call amber rose thick; though she's shapely and is packing in the right places, she isn't firm. Muscle tone/skin are not it ….. But that's just mγ opinion.
Monique isn't thick. Anyone who looks like they need help tying their shoe laces ain't thick ….. That's fat!
Especially when foldS (love handles by disillusioned pple) exist. People tend to assume fat people with good gait and posture are thick …… Not.
Jordin sparks, jennifer hudson (before she went overboard with d dieting) are thick. Beyonce isn't thick though. The only part of her bodt that's big is her booty. Even her thighs are not 'thick' enough to fall into that category. She just a girl with big booty and a fabulous body
ToolzO is thick not fat. Take her hips out of the equation, and u realize she isn't that 'big'. She's the perfect example of pear shaped.
What is 'thick'? Pleasssse, I think the word 'thick' is offensive. Like you're trying to cover a fault that is not there. If you're overweight, you're overweight. If you don't like it, work out and lose weight. 'Thick' is like saying someone is 'ethnic' or 'urban' instead of just calling them 'black'! I'm a UK size 12 with sizeable 'assets' and I exercise often so my 'meat' is firm, but I'd rather be called 'chubby' or 'plump' than 'thick'! In any case, the label you choose to put on me doesn't affect my self-esteem and that's the way it should be!
ToolZ is Thick and i love her like that. We've been dating for 300 seconds now.
You fat or you slim oh, that don't really matter when it comes down to it, there are peiple out there who are only attracted to fat or slim people so live your life!!
Thick is having enough meat to cover your bones
Fat is having an overflow of meat covering your bones
Skinny is having just enough meat to cover your bones.
fat will never be attractive. dont listen to the love your lumps, bumps etc advocates, lose it! its good for ur esteem, health and longevity.
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