Published on February 25th, 2013 | by thetoolsman93
No Virgins Allowed.
Hey people, Toolsman here welcoming us to another awesome week. Super excited about this week because we are only days from The Writer Competition 2013. I’ll be announcing the 10 finalists later this week so stick around. Today’s post is erm.. Well, I’ll let you decide…
If you ask most christians what the greatest sin is, they’ll most likely say murder or maybe lying right? Well, let’s just say a few years ago I’d have probably said the same but with my experiences in life, I’ve come to discover that the greatest sin is probably that of fornication.
Don’t agree? Lets keep going…
I’m a christian so allow me to continue threading the religious line for a bit. You know how God created man and the bible says we were made in his image meaning we have more power, more freehand that we think or know we have. Look at some of the great achievements man has made, we’ve put planes in the air, we’ve landed on the moon, we invented guns, nuclear weapons, the Internet and our quest to discover new things doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. Whether we know it or not, our persistent thirst for knowlege, that inquisitive nature we are all born with drives us to discover new things, some positive, some not.
Now, just like most things this inherent inquisitive gene doesn’t manifest the same way in all of us. For some, its raging (take a look at the Chinese), for others, its quite passive, they just go along woth the ride and if an apple falls on their head while they are napping in an open field, they pick up the apple and eat it.
Ok, where am I going with this? Stay with me…
For everyone reading, please take a second to answer this question:
Do you remember (vividly) the first time you had sex with the second person you ever had sex with?
Chances are a lot of you had to pause for a second to think about the answer to that question partly because it isn’t a common question – most people ask about your first but take another minute to really think about your second, third and more (if there are). What I really want you to answer is: even if sex with your first partner was stars and fireworks, do you really think it would have stopped you from having another go with someone else?
I’ve had the privilege of discussing this with several people at different times and because I didn’t want to jump into conclusions, I decided to put this up for discussion. What I’ve come to realize is for most women, having sex with their second partner wasn’t bourne out of compulsion, it wasn’t always a case of, he was my new boyfriend so it was inevitable. It was more or less a case of ticking something off a list. Same goes for men but in our case, even after the sixth partner, it’s still a matter of ticking numbers off a list.
The natural inquisitive nature of man is almost impossible to surpress when it comes to sex. You lose your virginity and even if it was a regretable experience, you go back and try it again. After your first partner, a part of your mind still wonders how it will feel to try another, you want to know if this guy will last longer that your first, if she’s more flexible than the other, if s/he can make you feel things the other person didn’t.
The ‘need’ (for lack of another word) to explore sexually almost feels inherent in man. All christians know how polygamy was ‘allowed’ in the old testament. Yes, Jesus came and changed all of that by dying on the cross. However, that action only opened up the gates of grace for us. Not because God wants us to sin over and over again; some of us explore a bit and quickly realize that you can keep exploring forever if you allow it. But you can also satisfy your curiousity after a few tries and quickly conclude and move on. For those who for one reason or the other realize this late, God’s grace is still beyond sufficient. I’m no pastor, this is just how I see things.
With all I’ve said, I wonder how some men sit and decide within themselves that they only want to marry virgins. I often wonder about marriages where a very sexually experienced person ends up with a virgin. Some of you reading might think I’m overthinking this but from experience I’ve come to realize that the curiousity will NEVER go away till its satisfied one way or the other and in cases where it isn’t, in comes regret. I’m not saying its absolute but in most cases, it gets the better part of us.
Today I want to hear from you, let’s talk about your second, third and fourth partners. Was it premeditated, were you driven by emotions or curiosity? Do you want to end up married to a virgin? If yes, why? Aren’t you scared your virgin will one day give in to her curiousity? For the virgins reading
not you Saka, tell us about your battle with this curiousity. If for some reason the person you eventually give it up to ends up messing up, what would be your reaction. You know the drill, use the comment box to express you. Cheers.