Published on June 13th, 2012 | by Sheila26
What Is In A Name
Couples love to use terms of endearment for each other, in every language and culture throughout the world. A romantic nickname implies an intimacy and friendship that is set apart from the way you interact with other people. Naturally, the correct answer to which nickname is best is something that only you and your lover can answer. Here’s something I got off a site:
*Giving your special someone a pet name, gives you sole authority to call him or her the same. Couples agree that using special names for each other brings an air of informality and closeness in the relationship, while simultaneously making their emotions for each other stronger. Girls, often tend to use names that have no meaning and are just syllables, but which are cute sounding to the ears. Guys, on the other hand, tend to just shorten the names of their partners and use that as a nick name, or stick to the more conventional ‘darling’, or ‘sweetheart’.
This thing about pet names or should I call them ‘special names’ or names for that ‘special person’ …well that’s what they used to be, is that they are no longer that. I remember the days when a guy giving you a special name meant so much. It meant he had put a stamp on you, you shared something ‘special’ and he had professed his intentions of his want of intimacy with you. It was considered as one of the steps towards first base…
well that’s what I used to think.
Now being called ‘babe’, ‘boo’ or even ‘honey’ means absolutely nothing. Guys now find it a little too easy to call any girl, “special names”. I know Thetoolsman has written about this several times but it’s like the effort being put into building a romance has been thrown out of the window. Don’t even get me started with butterflies in your tummy and all that jazz. The idea of romance is now ancient history to most but today, I’d just like to focus on the importance of a pet name for that special person.
Pet names have a history eventhough as at the time of writing this I couldn’t come up with the facts, I’m sure some of you can imagine Eve calling Adam ‘A.D’, Dammy or erm.. you get the idea. It really doesn’t matter how it sounds, it’s meant to be cute, maybe even silly but most importantly, personal. How do you call your girlfriend/wife boo, babe, honey, sweetheart and then call a girl that you barely know the same names? And I’m not attacking guys here because nowadays, women are just as guilty. We throw around words like ‘dear’ and ‘darling’ so much, they don’t even hold any meaning. What form of endearment is a guy supposed to feel when you refer to him and your family help with that same word ‘darling’.
Ok, I have rambled on enough. Why are we here today? Well, I want us to comment on what I’ve written, do you think pet names are still relevant? Should we even bother with them? But before you answer, how about a little exercise? Before you drop your answer to my question, please state your current pet name for your ‘lover’ and what he/she calls you. And if you’re currently single
like some of us, a little bit of imagination is allowed, what would you like to be called and what would you call him/her? You know what to do, see you in the comment section.
PS: Should we also consider ‘bedroom’ conversations when picking pet names?