Where Do Broken Hearts Go?
Hey people, Toolsman here serving up your Wednesday Dialogue and to start with, as much as I love Whitney Houston, I’m sorry to disappoint you but this isn’t a tribute to her… well… not really… If anything at all, thinking up and trying to write this post just made me feel worse about her death because I realized she left us with an open-ended question a long time ago; a question I’ve long wondered about the answer. Since she’s no longer here to answer me, I’ll just pray you guys will be up to the task and help answer this not so simple question: where do broken hearts go?
If I was in one of my research moods I’d probably start off with defining what exactly a ‘broken heart’ is and then use whatever info I can gather from that to determine why or when they have to leave in the first place before thinking up an answer to where they go. Well I’m really not in that place right now and I also tried to see if Whitney left clues in the actual song she did with this title but I watched the video instead and that just totally killed me with emotions…. *I love you Whitney* … sniff…
So you see, I’m now left with my half functional brain (yes, it’s 2am, my brain gets like this at this time of the night) and you guys to help solve this generational mystery that has existed since… well, since Whitney first reminded us about it in 1988. Where do broken hearts go?
Because I really don’t trust you guys I understand that PHCN might just fail or all of our national satellites might be captured by space pirates thereby preventing you guys from gaining access to the internet and helping me out here, I went out earlier today and I asked some of my former friends and family members this question and what follows are the erm… answers I got:
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Where do broken hearts go? Erm… what kind of a question is that?
It’s a question, I need an answer…
It’s not a question, it’s a song. It’s the title of a really good song.
I know it’s the…. Forget about the song, I’m asking you for an answer.
Well, go and listen to the song, I’m sure there’s an answer there…
I already did. No answer.
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So?
So what?
Never mind.
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Hahahaha…
What’s funny Tolu?
Lol. You are funny Uncle Tula. Your question is funny.
Well, you still haven’t answered it.
………… Broken hearts go back into your blood now.
Your blood? How?
Well it’s a heart, if it breaks it breaks into little pieces that melt and go back into your blood. *gives me the duhhh look*
Oh I see… so erm… what happens after that?
You grow another heart? *still giving me the duhhh look*
Oh… true… makes perfect sense. Thanks
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But wait, what happens between the time your heart breaks and when you grow a new one?
Duhhhhhhhhhh….. you become heartless!!!!
(Please Note: Tolu is 5)
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Hmm… broken hearts?
Yes…
Lets see… they go some place to get healed?
Where’s this some place?
Camman Tula, we all know hearts don’t really break.
Oh, we do?
Yes. Feelings get hurt to various degrees but hearts don’t literally break. If they do then you die.
Hmmm… thanks.
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Egypt?
What?
Broken hearts go to Egypt.
Huh? Why? For what?
Well, to chill and wait for you to ‘believe’ again so there can be a miracle?
Huh… what?.. Oh… Oh… Yeah… Thanks.
You’re welcome.
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Kanu Heart Foundation? Hahahaha
Ha Ha Ha … very funny…
Ok, ok, don’t know about you but when my heart gets broken, my bed suffers it. I just stay in and sleep and sleep for days. And even when I’m not sleeping, I still stay in, I just never feel like seeing people.
Hmm… and then what?
And then I get the courage to go out again, probably have some hot rebound sex and then I’m good again.
Ok… rebound sex? Ok…
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Oh… Whitney?
Well, not exactly. I really want to know what happens to broken hearts.
Well, she gave us the answer some years ago.
She did?
Yup. Broken hearts check in a Heartbreak Hotel, wait out for as long as it takes for them to get better and then they head back into the world.
Oh I see… But… Where exactly is this Heartbreak Hotel?
Well, it’s anywhere you want it to be. A pub, the ice cream aisle of a grocery store, Unilag, your Twitter DM’s, Adeyemo Alakija, church… anywhere really.
Ok, thanks.
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Six people. And I must say those are six people whose opinions I really really respect. Yes, even little Tolu. But if I can’t come up with a consensus from my small sample group, I wonder what I’ll get from you guys.
Ok, let’s get serious for a bit. Yesterday was Valentines Day and with the major presence of a lot of us on social media sites nowadays, I realized one thing, there are not just a lot of sad people out there, there are also a lot of scared people. I got talking with a couple of friends and the issue of broken hearts came up and for a second I wondered: if we don’t know what becomes of broken hearts why are we so weary of getting our hearts broken?
It’s kinda like being afraid of your own shadow. Well, sorta… Getting a broken heart is not a myth. It happens and it hurts like hell for a while and you’ll probably be “heartless” for that period like little Tolu said but it doesn’t shouldn’t last forever. Well, except you’re this guy:
Ok, call me a sucker for pain or whatever but I’m all for making mistakes (while I still have the ‘heart’ for it) and learning from those mistakes to become a better person. So if you’re sitting on your sorry ass or rolling around wallowing in bed feeling sorry for yourself just because you didn’t get any cake, red wine or clichéd hamper yesterday, my question to you is: where do broken hearts go? And if you’re like me, you’ve been there before but you’re better off now, help us out, use the comment box and tell us what you did with the pieces of your broken heart and you just never know, you might be saving a heart-less person. Cheers.
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Looool! I agree with Tolu. They just melt back into your blood and you grow a new one, although, the second part doesn't happen for everybody.
Kanu Heart Foundation though.
*Sigh*
Show me your friends…
lol @ lil tolu's duhhh look!
broken hearts dont go anywhere, they move on
little tolu is totally on point d'uh!! when its broken u r heartless 4 a while then u grow a new one.
out of d mouth of babes mehn. d bible is so on point
I LOVE Tolu.
And no, hearts don't really break..
Little pieces learn t regrow,quietly,steadily…from learning t get out of bed to learning to smile…and then laugh…then they learn t cuss th hell out of th dumbass that broke it…(Bliss)each one strives to learn something that will aid in th rejuvination,in finding some peace.some choose a hubby,like finding peace in being bitter and cynical or something as cool as crocheting…I think,perhaps that's me I'm talking about……
They check in to heartbreak hotel for a bit, listening to the three JMs, (John Mayer, Jason Mraz and James Morrisson), Adele and a host of other sad people who've made a ton of money off theirs. Then in the process they mend slowly and become whole again. The time it takes for this process to occur differs depending on how broken they were in the first place to how eager the victims are to expose their hearts to the possibility of another heartbreak. Its never easy to get back on the horse again and sometimes its not really advisable especially if u haven't sat back to understand how and why u were heartbroken in the first place, BUT (cliches are cliches for a reason) u can't let the fear of striking out keep you from taking a swing at it.
Take it from someone's whose heart's been broken as many times as he's broken hearts…no matter how shatterred you feel at the moment, the heart has that wolverine-like quality to heal itself if u just give it enough time. You might just be lucky to move on and into the arms of that one person who'll make u realise why didn't work out with anyone else (cliches are cliches for a reason) :).
K
I love lil tolu!!! O 2 b that young….. **sigh**
Lil Tolu is the man…such a genius!
Broken hearts stay on their lane, they never go back to the idiots that they were with before or a foolish replacement.
My heart has been broken…in fact it hasn't healed just yet, and might never heal.
It can pain. :(
I do not understand affection. It is the same with the bitch that just took mine for granted.
Broken heart dont go anywhere, it just goes numb thereby allowing you to go on with little or no oxygen, tries to make you believe it is no longer there..then somethg happens and it all changes…it beats faster and harder after that….life goes on.
so, broken hearts just remain inside of us until a situation or someone recharges it/them back to life!
did i make any sense? *rolls eyes*
No. :(
I agree with Tolu.. But before you grow a new pair,each little piece of broken heart loves someone.. So you could love (lust) plenty ppl before u grow a new pair :D and oh,the new pair loves just one person.
They really do go to a 'Heartbreak Hotel'.
Though some peeps kinda stay there for too long, doing what you ask?
Well, building defense/attack mechanisms in whatever form manifests best to them; Johnnie Walker & all his routes, Ice-cream, Music, Cynicism/humor/sarcasm/wit thingamabob.
It's the baggage that you eventually check out with or choose to leave that makes all the difference.
True, very true.
There are methods to fixing "broken" hearts and from what I know about the human anatomy like a broken leg, would take TIME and WILLINGNESS of the victim but like most injuries would leave "scars". There are levels of intensities of how broken a heart could be based on the events that lead to it in the first place. This determines the healing process and eventually the environment (hospital of choice and "heart" specialists) we find ourselves during this period of "brokenness". What exactly makes a broken heart, the unforeseen bitter end to it? My broken heart had insurance so I guess I'm fine now I accepted heartbreak, brushed myself up didn't dwell on them despite the questions from friends and strangers, stayed optimistic, engaged in things that made me happy, I still maintain a superficial level of relationship with CAUSE(s) of "accident". Broken Hearts move on to become "just scars" or an unfortunate past, and the pace at which this morph occurs is determined by the heart broken victim.
When heart break looms, the singular questionthat comes to my mind is:
"Did I give it my all to make it work?"
Making it work includes: tolerating, forgiving, communicating, supportive et al
Once my spirit can bear me witness then saying Goodbye is easier.
This reminds me of Don Williams
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Some broken hearts never mend
Some injuries never heal
Some tears will never dry
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A Heart Break is just an opportunity to make a better and informed decision.
Broken Heart do not go anywhere. The very moment they stop wallowing in self pity and living the victim mentality, there is a renewed strength to be a better person. Lets endeavour to define what we want, We should not be blown away by the next size 8 or 34DD that comes our way.
Beyonce said:
I wanted you bad
I'm so through with it
Cuz honestly you turned out to be the best thing I never had
You turned out to be the best thing I never had
And I'm gon' always be the best thing you never had
I bet it sucks to be you right now
No Sentiments! Hurting could be real bad especially when we are committed.
Love is kinda like..pounded yam? Lol…well.. I was gonna say…Hearts are ''Like millepedes''… With the power to 'self-regenerate'' So yeah, Nature will take it's course and take care of it. :)
Lmho! Tolu. Next Einstein.
The one about Egypt is very clever. (y)
That the Heartbreak Hotel is wat/where u want it to be makes the most sense.
Broken hearts do not go anywhere. They stay where they r n heal with time(maybe) cos that's how God wants it to be.
Awww…Tolu is such a cutie. So smart.
Kanu Heart Foundation tho.
I've never been heartbroken so I can't say ^_^
Lucky you.
Well my rshyp ended a few wks ago and I'm jst filled wit this disappointment and disgust. U knw wen u've done evrythin u can to make sum1 happy n he's so caught up wit his frustrations n depression n decides to push u away.. It leaves u wit dis very vexed feeling. Gone r d days wen I'l feel like I wasn't good enuff. Dat being said.. Broken hearts only go where u lead em to. Yea I cried n sniffed my way thru d last hrs of valentine's day but I knw by God's grace I'l love another and be committed with sum1 dat @ least believes he's good enuff for me. :)
Broken hearts go to a lonely place, full of introspection and bitter recollections. You could liken it to purgatory. The heart spends time there to 'purge' it of its sour past. The duration spent in 'love-gatory' is totally dependent on the individuals 'healing-capacity'. That's my take.
What are all of you saying?
There is no such thing as a broken heart. It's a myth.
T.
Sigh*
Broken hearts don't really go anywhere. They just go numb for a bit. Then they open up again and if they get broken one more time or in some cases 3 more, :| they just shut down.
Broken Hearts go to two separate guys OR girls…OR a guy + a girl
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Broken hearts go to ther deepest corner of your mind,hides and allows itself to heal. However this duration of time depends on the individual involved.
Tolu's such a cutie *smiles
Please what is a broken heart? :s
Lmao @ d replies lil tolu is a smart child and i totally agree with her/him.your heart doesn't break literally but u are hurting so bad at that point it feels like u don't have a heart anymore.But as humas,we always heal over time.
There's no such thing as broken heart !
I agree with the heartbreak hospital which is anything that helps, music doesn't seem to, the lyrics which usually become clear only when u're heartbroken just seem to tell you how much you've lost, sex helps though, plus keeping busy and definitely icecream rotfl!!!
lil' Tolu = genius. cldnt agree more. but b4 u grow a new one, chk into a heartbreak hotel.